I just threw my husband of 4 years out once again, I found him cheating for the third time. I found a cell phone that he and his lfriend were using. I spoke to the friend and she did not know that we were living together. I have caught him in so many lies.....when do you give up? and how do you give up?
2007-06-22 11:12:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No I think it's safe to say he's a looser and will continue to cheat.
2007-06-22 11:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You give up now, but you should have given up last time. He sounds like he is a compulsive cheat. He gets high on the chase. How do you give up? Well very simply you look at your reflection in the mirror and ask, "am i a total fool?" "can I not find a good honest loving man"? and then you should look once more and say " I do not deserve to be hurt, humiliated, cheated on, and treated less then every again" My God 4 years marriage...poor you...that always are the very best years where you should be so in love. He has mental problems your husband. Only years of mental help will help him and he has to admit he has mental issues. Let him go. Love yourself. Cry but know you are doing the right thing. He is sick.
2007-06-22 18:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u needed to give up after the second time he cheated, if a man cheats on u he doesn't love u, and if theres no love u have nothing, and no matter how hard u try u will never be able to trust this man again, sometimes it is best to cut ones losses and end it, even if it hurts, because i would much rather get hurt once than be hurt over and over again. u simply file for divorce, and distance yourself from him, u don't talk to him on the phone, or go out with him, u simply end it once and for all. if it has been the third time he isn't going to stop this. why waste your life on a man like this, have a little respect for yourself, and at least get out of this with your dignity.
2007-06-22 19:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you need to ask yourself is--Do I deserve to be happy? then ask yourself if you can be happy being with someone who lies to you and cheats on you? But,.... You can only answer "Yes" to that question if you really want someone who lies and cheats, not if you think he will stop and change. Well, can you be the wife of a ladies man, always looking at pursuing other gals?
Is that what you wanted when you took your vows?--To keep house for a single guy, a ladies man? While he lies to you?
You give up when you realize that what you wanted is not possible and never will be with that person. NEVER WILL BE!
You may find someone else, or maybe you won't, but you either way, you will be happier and more free without being with the a man who can't keep his word, can't be responsible to you, leas cheats, and you can't trust. YOU DESERVE MORE> Wake up to reality and start planning your wonderful future without the stress of this child-boy who refuses to take responsiblility like a real man.
2007-06-22 18:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by plplouise 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something we can not answer... Do you feel like it is over? You will know when it is, My mom put up with my father doing this for 18 years before she felt it was over. Only you know when you have had all you can handle. But I am living proof sometimes there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Although I regret it horribly, I have cheated on my husband a few times. But I finally woke up before he gave up and we are living happily ever after as of two years ago. He did not give up on us, and now life is good. it was a horrible bump in the road because of me, I truly am sorry but, it made us stronger. You can get passed it. It all depends on how strong your love for him is. Good Luck to you.
2007-06-22 18:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by Kari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obviously really bad when you post something on the net asking if you should have hope for your marriage. Something tells me that it doesn't matter what responses you get. When you seriously get fed up of his behavior, then and only then will you give up. Until you are ready to end this relationship on your own, nothing that anyone says will make a difference. You will know when you are ready because giving up will come very naturally! When that time comes, you will never look back! Good Luck!
2007-06-22 18:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by screwed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you realize that staying with him for one more minute means giving up every last shred of self respect you have left. If you don't despise yourself you leave.
When someone treats you like a public toilette over and over and thinks that you are either too stupid to notice or doesn't care what you think, ask yourself if they are right. There are billions of men on this planet. They are not in short supply. Yours sounds like he is much more replaceable then average. He obviously thinks the same way about you.
2007-06-22 18:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got stuck with a rotten egg. You are better off moving on without him in your life. He is not giving you the respect you deserve from a man. The time to give up is now. As far as how do you do it? You need good friends and hopefully family also will be there for you to lean on. It is likely that other people in your life will see it as high time you dump him and will gladly be there to support you. Good luck.
2007-06-22 20:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I caught my ex cheating one time. I'm sure it wasn't his only time. At that moment it was over for me. I told him that day it was over and have only seen him 4 times in the past 23 years. He didn't even come to our daughters graduation, wedding and wasn't around when the grandchildren were born. Everytime you start to think maybe you want him back, just remember all the lies and cheating.
2007-06-22 18:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For him, you give up now. How? File, hon.
If marriage is respect, admiration, passion and trust, the trust is gone, with him pronging some other babe... Unless you are a mental basket case, the respect and admiration you had for him are in the toilet with the rest of it.... You have no marriage, sweetie, you have a run-around occasional boinking buddy as a roommate..... Yucko..
Sweetie, there are just toooooo many nice guys out there to screw around with a cheater.... "once one, always one...". Get yourself some counseling if you can't see it, and find out why you are willing to endure such treatment.... being in a loving relationship is just toooo nice to waste time with jerks.... and hon, by allowing him back in your life, he is keeping YOU as "the jerk in reserve...." You can't be a door mat unless to lay there, take it and like it. Find out why you like it......
2007-06-22 18:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be interested to keep it together? Anyway he likes being kicked out of the house it gives him another excuse to go out and do as he pleases. Ever think of sitting down and having an adult conversation and trying to work through what is bothering the both of you?
2007-06-22 18:19:24 · answer #11 · answered by oldone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋