Women are strange sometimes, aren't we?... We say we'd leave her if she ever cheated on you but they say something slick or apoligize and here we come crawling back... If that's not the case, then what was it that made you leave for good after she cheated (or vice versa... if you cheated, what made her leave). When is it really over?
2007-06-22 11:11:20 · 8 answers · asked by Essence 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well my past history has been that i've been cheated on twice by 2 women whom i loved very much....but as soon as they got caught up in their mess- I was OUT. I didn't tolerate it. THey did the crying, the begging, the slick talk, even threantening (lol)....but i held my ground and knew that i didnt deserve that at all.
BUT in my current relationship of a lil over 2 yrs...if she cheated on me, im not sure how i would react. I mean, of course i would be pissed, severely hurt and disgusted by her actions. But she is a part of my life, my family, i love her with everything I am...and it would be next to impossible to sever all ties. So i wonder if i could truly be as strong as i was the first 2 times, if it were to happen again. It has nothing to do with being a push over cuz im FAR from that. It's about emotional strings and soulties to someone & figuring out whether or not she has learned from her mistake, is truly sorry, and if u can TRUST her to never do it again.
2007-06-22 11:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've only been cheated on once, and not really "cheated on" per se. She was kinda dating the girl, but they never had sex. Anyway, I dumped her. I just couldn't be in a relationship with someone that wasn't giving me all of her. I was giving her all of me. I cared so deeply for her, and she decided that it wasn't enough, so I left. Now, there was a time when an ex tried to get me to cheat on my girlfriend with her. It came close (she had me pushed up against a wall) but I didn't go through with it. I went home and told my girlfriend, the begged her not to leave, and she forgave me. So, I guess it depends.on the woman, the situation and the relationship. I can tell you that the relationship where I dumped the girl was much weaker than the other.
2007-06-23 01:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by pjonkml 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once the trust in the relationship is gone, it's over. Could you truly trust someone again who has already broken your trust? Or would you always be wondering where she is or who she's with? I deserve better. If she didn't want to be with me, then she could tell me. She doesn't cheat. Sometimes people grow apart. Sometimes we don't love someone "forever". And that is fine. But give me the respect I deserve and honestly say, I find myself attracted to someone else. I'd like to persue that. Don't run around behind my back and try to make a fool of me. Would you even take that from a friend? I wouldn't. No one should make you look or feel foolish. Especially someone that claims they once had love for you.
2007-06-22 18:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by L.A. H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a relationship is salvageable if your mate cheats...but ONLY if your mate comes to you and tells you about it. I have known of situations someone just happens to find out about the cheating. In that case, there is not any more trust. If they tell you about it, maybe there is hope.
But if they do not tell you and you find out some other way, no apology, no forgiveness, no more acceptance. The fat lady is already standing up to start singing.
2007-06-22 18:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is that people treat you the way you allow them to treat you, and until you put a stop to the repetitive behavior, whether it be cheating or not, it will continue to happen! Sometimes walking away is the best answer! Most people think that walking away means that you don't love that person but in reality it just means that you love yourself more, which means you love yourself enough to stop the pain! Pain is inevitable; misery is an option!!!
2007-06-22 19:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me it would be. Every person has there own level of what they will allow in their life. I do not allow cheaters or liars to remain in my life. So to answer your question, it is over the second that person decides that cheating is more important than I am.
2007-06-22 18:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in it for love when someone cheats on you the love is probably gone becuase the other person will not want to cheat on you if they love you.
2007-06-22 18:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
idk we are such pushovers, i guess it depends on your feelings and the situation, my ex cheated on me, and told me he was really drunk and didnt realize what he was doing and when he did he pushed her off and he was really sincere about it, i wish i could be one of those that has the strength to drop them then and there.
2007-06-22 18:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by hello. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋