My wife and I seperated not to long ago. She suffers from extreme jealousy. Should i make her jealous to make her want to come back home? If so how?
2007-06-22 11:10:25 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure, but not the way you are thinking.
Make her jealous that you are happy.
People like to think they are the center of the universe and that without them we will all be miserable.
I separated with my wife and had a great time.
I was confident and charming and funny a real catch and she realized that she made a mistake.
2007-06-22 11:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No way, that will only back fire. Obviously you want your wife back, if she comes back to you in a rage of jealousy, she will never trust you , and will always question everything you do. I'm pretty sure she will hold this thing that you did to make her jealous over your head for a long time, and if you tell her you did it just to make her jealous, you are in a world of trouble for being dishonest.
If you want your wife back and she wants you back the two of you need to work on the things that caused you to separate. If she has already moved on and doesn't want you back, you either fight for her, honestly and romantically, or move on because the right woman is waiting else where for you.
2007-06-22 11:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by ofsoundmind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres what you should do... Ask her to come home first, if she says no then go out and meet someone... have a good time with them... but dont do it to make her jealous. Do it to make yourself feel better... But lol if at all possible make an appearance where your wife will see you. I know it must suck. But if she says no then I think you should have fun for you. Not to make her jealous. If you do ask her to come home tell her it will be the only time that you ask her. Then if she says no... go out and have a blast... You wont have anything to lose...
Sorry about the seperation by the way...
2007-06-22 11:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a good way to win someone back, especially someone who has jealousy issues. What you should do is something most men don't know how to do: talk to her about how you feel, and in a sweet and romantic way. Plan and cook dinner for her, buy her some flowers, tell you her you really love her and she is the only one for you, if you need some help rent some chick flick for some pointers.
2007-06-22 11:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by siouxsieque24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't recommend using her jealousy to bring her back home but you can use it as a test. If you still talk to her, start alluding to the fact that you are going to start seeing other people. If she displays any jealousy, then she still has feelings for you and there's a chance that she could come back home and you should work on getting her home. If not, she's over you and you should accept that fact and work on moving on.
2007-06-22 11:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by screwed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. not a good idea. Maybe you don't understand how jealousy causes a person to suffer and how they act out because of this sickness. Please read the web page below.
It would be immature to use this tactic. Why not try to help her instead of making her more miserable. I would have to ask why you seperated and how have you tried to fix the problem?
2007-06-22 11:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by oldone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You didn't discuss the reasons for your separation, so until those issues are resolved, you have no chance at having a successful, loving relationship. Extreme jealousy is a personality defect, brought on by lack of self esteem and inability to reason. Without help, she will always have this problem, and you will always have this as a plague in your relationship. Seek help for yourself, too.... why would you wish to have someone who has you constantly under the gun????????
2007-06-22 11:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't discuss things and come to a rational decision to come back together then you need to stay apart.
Why would you want a relationship based on jealousy ?
I agree with another poster. You need to grow up before you get into a relationship of any kind.
2007-06-22 11:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Ticia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you honestly think that making her feel bad about herself is a good way to get a relationship on track. How about honestly instead. Maybe I still love you and I would like to have you back in my life. If she's jealous in the first place, why do you want to make her feel worst. Just tell her that you love her and that you want her back, that would probably make her feel a whole lot better..You know what they say, You attract more bees with honey than vinegar..
Good luck
2007-06-22 11:14:27 · answer #9 · answered by johanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO definitely NOT !! jealousy only makes things worse.. trust me i have a jealous boyfriend and it totally sucks.. sometimes i cant even look towards another guy because he automatically thinks something bad.. i believe that if a person is jealous towards you they don't trust you.. just stay away.. do what i haven't been able to do and leave..
2007-06-22 12:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋