I recently made out with an 18 year old and he fingered me is that really bad? [im 14]?

Answer 1

You are not bad but the man you are with is behaving bad.

First, he is too old to be performing those kinds of intimate acts with you. It is illegal for a reason. He should be with someone his own age as should you.

Despite how grown up you feel, sexual behavior is best put off until you are a little older and can fully understand the emotional components and serious life altering outcomes.

Young women often jump into sexual relationships for all the wrong reasons and most regret it. You could easily get pregnant or a disease and I guarantee that guy will not stay around.

You need to focus on having a childhood, doing well in high school, getting a college degree and then a great job. Those things are much more important in life.

If you cannot wait and think you can handle a sexual relationship please talk with your mom about getting on birth control and/or insist your partner ALWAYS wears condoms for protection against disease and pregnancy.

Answer 2

I think fingering is digusting. I'm not sure if it illegal because it wasn't sex or anything, but others are saying it is so it must be. Someone tried to finger my friend when she was 11 (he was 13 or 14), and the only reason she stopped him was because it was her bros best friend! Yes, it is bad, he is sad enough to mess around a 14 yo girl, thats how sick he is...

Answer 3

Did you want him to do that, or did he pressure you into it?? I think 14 is too young to get fingered even by another 14 year old. And usually when a 18 yr old is interested in a 14 yr old its so they can take advantage of you sexually. Stand up for yourself and don't let men do that to you.

Answer 4

why would it be bad? Hes problem just using you . And if he is you might think he really likes you which could become a problem most 18 year old boys i know are in it for them self especially when the girls 14.But hey i dunno the guy there's some good guys out there he might actually like you . when i hocked up with my boyfriend i was 15 and he was 18 and we have been together for 4 years now i live with him. you never know whats gunna happen.Just don't let him break your heart!

Answer 5

well it is illegal but as for wrong that is really up to your inturpetation (sp). if you think it is okay for an adult to have sexual relationship with a child. If your mother knew this would she be upset? If your father knew this would he be upset? take these things in to consideration. Deep down you know the answer to your question and that answer in my opnion is that yes what happened to you was wrong on his part and should never happen again nothing like that should ever happen to you our any other minor.

Answer 6

It's hard to be 14. You want acceptance and you feel important and loved by an older man, but it is wrong.....and illegal. If in the back of the you think it is wrong, it is. The easiest way to avoid these types of situation is to date or hang out in groups.

Answer 7

You're not bad the guy shouldn't have done that, he should have known better. I'd steer clear of him from now on...cause hes pretty much a child molester. In fact, he is definitely a child molester and seriously, who wants to be with a child molester??

Answer 8

hmmmmmmmmmm no, its perfectly fine. what do you think? well incase you didnt know, its illegal. JUST to let you know if you want to refer to that later on. ok are you frickin insane? he's using you girl.. and it doesn't take anyone else but you to see that it's true. don't let it happen again or you're gonna be in some hot water.

Answer 9

yes, 3+ years is illegal.

...and if he KNEW you were 14 that means hes into little girls (no offence)

...i'd find a different guy your age that wont leave you for a younger girl when you turn 16


...bleh....

Answer 10

He's fuc%ing lucky, especially if your hot. I'm a 14 boy and DAM# thats hot!