I am a male, I'm gay and I have a friend James, who i have been sexual with for a year. He has a gf and has been out as bisexual for the past 9 months. We've had sex, made out, cuddled, and done other sexual acts. However,about a month ago, he came out and said he was gay. A couple weeks before he said he was gay, he kept talking about a kid his age that he knew for a fact was gay and wasnt ready to come out and that he had been the only person this kid had come out to. I suspected that this "kid" he was talking about had to be himself. He also kept asking me stuff like "what if i was gay?" over again. I already suspected he was gay cuz he loves the color hot pink, his favorite movie of all time is brokeback mountain, as well as mean girls, he likes getting his nails done and eyebrows waxed (his gf calls him for fashion advice) Plus girl on girl action grosses him out. A week after he came out, he said he was joking. That he is still bi and the gay kid was me!? Is my friend gay or bi?
2007-06-22 10:55:38 · 9 answers · asked by Jesse M 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He's testing the waters. He's gay.
2007-06-22 16:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by EG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he still likes sexual acts with girls, I'm going to say he's bi. If he's doing that to appease society (because it might be trendy to be bi and not gay) then I would say he's gay. From what you are telling me...I would say, "If it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck...chances are...it's a duck."
2007-06-22 18:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by L.A. H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is in limbo,,,maybe he just doesn't know and is confused. Lots of people are like that and don't know where they fit in.
Just keep being a friend and help your friend figure it out. Only time will tell.
2007-06-22 18:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter? You're both involved. I feel bad for the woman that he's seeing. Why would she think it's okay for him to cheat on her? You're asking total strangers to judge a man that you call your best friend and you're having relations with. We wouldn't know him. YOU DO.
2007-06-22 18:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gay!
2007-06-22 18:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by red_hac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
defitnetly hes bi
2007-06-22 18:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by craig m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably, though he seems very hesitant and possibly confused.
Give him a bit of time. And possibly talk to his girlfriend about it.
2007-06-22 18:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he's whatever he is. The more important question is why does it matter to you?
2007-06-22 18:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by Roger P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm....Bi-curious I would say.
2007-06-22 18:01:41 · answer #9 · answered by M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋