with their wives/husbands after they left the marriage cos they lost their love and trust for each and have no intention for reconciliation? In my case, I know that he wants to use me for something but, I'm not letting on to him that I know this. I'm interested to know of any other reasons for this to happen. Thanks.
2007-06-22 10:42:28 · 12 answers · asked by BFCP 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have never understood that unless kids are involved...
2007-06-22 10:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have children together it is easier on the children if ex's can get along and be civil with another to many people have kids marriage ends in divorce then they both use the kids as pawns, it isn't the childs fault so why treat them as such and downgrade the other parent to them whether or not the other parent deserves it you don't talk bad about the other parent in front of the child.
2007-06-22 19:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also still have fondness for my ex. Jeez, we spent 20 years together. Once the bitterness of the divorce passed (that took a year or so), we started emailing each other, and still do that about once every couple of months. I still care about what happens to him and his family, all of whom I was very fond of. I'm not trying to be his best friend, but I know what a loner he is, and am hoping I can encourage him (via email) to get out and enjoy life! I have since re-married and I wish my ex happiness like I have found.
2007-06-22 17:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My X-husband has always said how he has my back, and how sorry he is for treating me so badly. he says he wants to make amends with me. i was all game for that, especially because he was diagnosed with HIV, and possibly AIDS now. I want to make the rest of these years peaceful. Also, his two children were raised by him, i, and his first wife, and i love them very much. i didn't divorce them, and want them to know that. However, he tells his friends lies, about how i chase him, and it just isn't true. he leaves out that he calls me all of the time, and says such kind things, and how sorry he is, and even has mentioned that if we lived in the same state, we would be very close. until he stopped talking to me when he just got this new girlfriend. he didn't stop, but he was lying to her saying he didn't say the things he has, so i told him off. if he is embarressed to admit to his friends, and new girl that we remained close after the divorce, he must not care too much, and certainly doesn't have my back afterall. why i just answered this, i don't know. wasn't much help was i?
2007-06-22 18:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try and stay friends with my ex's. At one point in my life I loved that person, the least I can do is stay friendly with them. I am not saying I would hang out with them once a month or even once a year... but I would like to stay in touch and call a couple of times a year. Stay friendly and send xmas cards is the way to go with ex's
2007-06-22 17:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by bluechick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am good friends with my ex....why should I throw away a good friend just because the marriage didn't work out as planned? That makes no sense to me.
2007-06-22 18:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, they spent years and years together, went on vacations together, have spent time together ... just because people don't love each other doesn't mean they can't be friends. It happens all the time, friends don't love each other ... it can go the other way as well.
2007-06-22 17:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still love my ex as a friend and will always care about him. We also have 3 teenagers to raise.
2007-06-22 17:51:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My exhole knows better than to even TRY!
I'd pop a left hook into his jaw & drop him like a ton of bricks.
2007-06-22 17:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids. Somepeople care deeply for one another, they just can't live together. Ditto what Goldwing said, too.
2007-06-22 18:36:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋