the black guy was also a skilled lover and after the experience, she couldnt stand to look at her hubby again. she found him disgusting and became obsessed with the black guy and was begging the black guy to marry her. anyway cut long story short, she killed her husband to be with the black guy. THIS IS A TRUE STORY. I JUST SAW IT NOW ON A TV SHOW ON THE OXYGEN CHANNEL CALLED SNAPPED. so the question is are people who swing putting their relationship on the line if one of the partners experience a better lover?
2007-06-22 10:41:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
who has seen this episode of snapped also???? the husband who got killed was in the military
2007-06-22 10:49:00 · update #1
Story aside, that is a risk in swinging, but typically if someone leaves their partner for a better lover, there wasn't much of a relationship there to leave...y'know?
Sex IS important to a relationship and if that part of a relationship isn't working it should be fixed...if it is working, even if you play with others, someone with (what you feel is) superior skill should be like going on a great vacation. It's super fun while it lasts, but then you go back home...and home is great. ☺
2007-06-22 10:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I just saw on the news that this person was killed in an auto accident this morning. The question is, are people who drive putting their lives on the line every time they get in the car? The answer is probably yes. But if driving is what gets you places, then you have to take this risk I guess. The thing is, even if you don't swing, there's always a chance that your partner will meet someone else; and the whole "forbidden fruit" thing may add to the confusion. I've seen non-swingers go through nasty divorces, and the couple I know who swing have been happily married for 7+ years. So... everyone must decide what works for them, what is the "lesser evil."
2007-06-22 17:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"so the question is are people who swing putting their relationship on the line if one of the partners experience a better lover?"
Only if their relationship is questionable to begin with. This kind of psychotic obsession is not the norm within the lifestyle. I'd suggest taking what you see, hear and read about swinging in the media witha grain of salt, as they take only the most scandalous and salacious of stories to boost their ratings. Yes, there are plenty of Jerry Springer Show rejects who claim to be swingers, but from what I've seen, they're pretty rare. Most swingers are just your average joes, have their lives under control, and are quite discrete about their activities...you don't see them on the Springer show.
My husband and I have nearly 5 years experience with swinging and one of our main difficulties is finding other partners who turn us on enough to make the effort necessary to arrange to play together. My husband fulfills every need I have...our playmates just flesh out the things on our "want" list. :) It's an embellishment, a garnish, the whipped cream on top. Deep dish caramel apple crumble pie is heavenly...but it's just that much more decadent with a scoop of ice cream.
2007-06-22 23:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Swingers do put them self in danger of losing a partner, but it is my understanding the divorce rate among real committed swingers is not that much different the the rate of divorce in the general population. Is is not necessarily the the sexual equipment of a swinging partner as it is what is going on with the primary relationship.
2007-06-22 17:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by K K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend , hes a computer friend. He and his wife used to swing. I used to tell him to each his own but dont tell me about it. Anyways years went by and suddenly his wife told him she loved one of the men they were swinging with. They divorced. Swinging isnt something he ever wants to do again. It tore up his marriage. Things happen. Its hard to desensitize sex for the recreational fun, feelings get in the way. You risk alot. Unless you are not happy then do whatever you want. but if you value your wife/husband dont do it.
2007-06-22 17:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not the size of the package, it's what's one does with it. So, people who swing have already put their relationship at risk by saying it doesn't matter; if it doesn't matter, hey, it doesn't matter.
2007-06-22 17:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude it is so true. my uncle's roommate from college knew someone.........HA oh sorry I can't do this with a straight face.
2007-06-22 17:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think BabeHeart should be voted best answer.
2007-06-22 18:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋