I'm married and we have no real problems at all. I just have been talking to another lady for the last couple of year (becuase we work together) and through those conversations I've noticed a void in my feelings for my own wife. It confuses me since we never have any overt issues and when i do try and discuss my needs with my wife she just doesn't seem to get. I have not had any thing physically happen with anyone else and would never let it come to that, but i almost feel like that my wife has become more like my sister??? Not Sure what to do with all this...
2007-06-22 10:33:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like you need to take a step back and put some things in perspective. first off, you married your wife and committed to her for better or worse and all that. 2. your close friend here that is a business partner or what ever is strictly a business partner. relationships in the work place can get complicated because what happens generally is the more you work alongside the person and the more you accomplish together the stronger your bond gets. it is not uncommon at all for felings to start between coworkers. what you should try to do is on the weekends do things with your wife together-like start an at home project that the two of you cna get into together and the both of you benefit from. that way you can work alongside eachother. sounds like you have a great relationship with your co worker you just need to have a better one with your wife.
2007-06-22 10:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by princessandie1984 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're going through this. Do the one thing that a lot of people forget to do... picture her walking down the isle to you. Dwell on the overwhelming feelings you had the day you were married. How much you loved her, how beautiful she was, how you heart soared when you saw her.
Now think of losing her to someone else... the woman you fell in love with, falling in love with someone else.
You feel this way because your relationship with your wife is REAL. Every day you deal with issues. Bills, cooking, working, coming home tired. This other woman doesn't come with all of that because you're not married to her. She's the fantasy. The unattainable. What you have at home is a loving woman that will listen to you and try to understand. She's the one you can trust. She's the one to lay your head on when the world falls apart.
If I were you I would cut ties with this other woman because even though you are sincere in not letting anything happen, something may given the right circumstances and then you'll find out that she is the same person all of us women are. We are boring at times, crabby, moody, irrational, overly emotional, love our families deeply, have our feelings hurt easily, we're not perfect. None of us are perfect.
2007-06-22 10:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to tackle this conundrum is to sit down with your wife and have a serious talk with her about this situation. The more time u let pass, the bigger the distance will become between you and your wife and.....you will get a lot closer to that other lady. So before any blood is shed, you better try to fix things with your wife if you really want the relationship to improve and start putting some distance between yourself and that woman.
2007-06-22 10:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by steelydan157 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your wife tell her how you feel. Youare stepping into dangerous territory. On top of it take time to be with one another. If you have kids some family time. After kids are in bed some talking time and maybe some inimate time as well with your wife. What God has put together let no man or woman tear apart. You are talking to the wrong woman when you feel this void.
2007-06-22 10:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by Icyelene R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to speak to your wife again, and let her know how you feel and that the 'spark' is gone and discuss how to get it back...
2007-06-22 10:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First mistake was talking to this other woman. Assuming that your conversations had less to do with work. You should stop talking with her if you want to save your marriage.
2007-06-22 10:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have a lot of feelings of caring, that aren't love. We lust, we are built up by egos, we care, we are friends ... but it isn't love. So, keep it in perspective and don't give up what you have for something that might not exist.
2007-06-22 10:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by John B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since this is such a good friend have you told her your feelings?
2007-06-22 10:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Humble Servant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel...and tell the other woman how you feel
2007-06-22 11:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by Shannon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
iv'e been in that position before
2007-06-22 10:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by IntiJunkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋