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I have a horse he is a 5 year old gelding i have owned him for nearly 2years.Me and my horse have a fairly good bond.
But the problem is im only 14 and my granddad is to over protective and he is always right in my way when i work with him..my step-mother dont like him and treatens to get rid of him ..the thing is my mom and stepdad bought him for me ..then i moved out and moved in with my dad and step mom so i cant send him back down my moms.
my granddad also thinks he knows everything out my horse
and that i dont know anything
i can hardly get around my horse anymore because of this issue. ive tried talking to them they wont listen i need help
my horse means everything to me .i would die for him..help?

well my granddad says the complete oppsite of what my stepdad says and my stepdad has worked with horses all his life
and i know my granddad hasnt. =[

well my granddad says the complete oppsite of what my stepdad says and my stepdad has worked with horses all his life
and i know my granddad hasnt. =[

my stepdad and granddad dont really know each other.
its more like im the adult ur the kid
im always right.

there is NO possible way he can stay at my moms because of a lie that basically ruined my life.
and i dont have a riding instrutor were i come from you teach ur self .down here we are not made of money especially for the things and ppl that r not nessessary.i take good care of my horse.nobody can tell me differnt.
i dont need a trainer to tell me what to do.ok?
im srry but real horseman (in my opion)
dont need trainers if you can train it ur self u dont need it =/
and the fu****** law here is messed up in the head and it isnt the vets the groomers ,who ever they are dont need to get concered...
trust me ...the last time they did
i got screwed over

Answer 1

Doesn't sound like the horse is the real issue. It sounds like your grandfather is having a power struggle with your step dad. If he says something and you agree, your grandfather is just saying the opposite. The issue is between them and not the horse. Find an adult that you can talk to, maybe an aunt or uncle and see if they can shake all these adults up and get to the root of the problem.
Good luck

Answer 2

I'm 15 and I understand your problem. My mom thinks she knows a lot more about horses when she really doesn't. I train my horses by myself and she always feels the need to tell me that what I am doing is all wrong. The way I got through to her is by saying this, "If you know so much, why don't you show me?"

Of course, she couldn't show me because she had no idea what she was talking about. Plus, she's terrified of horses. She's never nagged me since. If this won't work on your grandad than I'm really sorry and I wish I could help you more. Just try to hang in there.

Answer 3

huni forget all that you are being told and just go and get your riding instrctor to help and advise you and ask her if she would be willing to work at your home with your horse and let your grandad hear from her what is right or wrong.

why dont you see if your mum will let you have the horse at hers? talk to her and tell her what is happening and how you feel and perhaps she will help you

hey you say you dont need help etc but even the experts like to have a second opinion at times.

i have been around horses all my life as have my family and i have won various things as well with my horses, and i take the odd lesson at times to go back to basics and i know that i am not alone with that either. also often when you have problems when you are riding the horse it is good to have someone on the ground watching you that know what they are talking about to point out the things that you physically cant see when you are in the saddle

as for not being able to have it back at your mums because of a lie that basically ruined your life, wewll i wont ask what it was but lies divided my family a while ago and now we have mended the past. you say true horsemen dont need trainers, well that is so,wrong missy. all horsemen need a little help at times, even if it is just to pick anothers brains on a matter that is baffling them.

you say you got f*****d before, well that may be but if you are going to be like this then i am sorry but you will have to put up with your grandfather and i am sorry to say it but he is the adult and you are the child, and i dont mean to sound nasty but if one of my kids said they dont need a trainer etc and had the attitude like you have then i would take the horse off them and tell them they could have it back when they grow up.

Answer 4

Just a suggestion, talk to your horse vet. Most vets (not all) who work on horses know alot about working on them, riding them, etc. in addition to medical information. Tell him what's going on and see if he could make some suggestions to your grandad next "routine" visit. Most horse vets also are used dealing with hard-headed horse people as well.

Answer 5

Boy, are you in a pickle!
Try humoring your Grandad....you know, Ok grandpa, yes grandpa, and so on. Do what he asks of you while he is aroud (hopefully it wont be incorrect). Maybe he'll loose interest. Most likely he thinks he is protecting you. If he thinks your learning, maybe he wont be so protective.
I do understand how you feel. At 14 your horse really is your whole world. Hang in there.

Answer 6

Awww honey - I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

You have to find some sort of compromise here - even if it means biting your tongue (saying nothing) to your Granddad. The only thing that really matters is keeping your horse - I know how that feels. Maybe listen to him - he might actually know stuff you don't - you know, that age thing!!

Good luck to you -I'm sure all this hurts badly :(

Answer 7

Megan, if your grandfather does not know anything about horses, just let him talk and keep on doing what you've been doing. He probably won't know the difference any way. If you could give me some specifics, I would be glad to help you figure out a way to talk to your grandfather about it.

Good luck

Answer 8

oh, that sux *hugs* :(
maybe wut you could do is maybe even talk to one of ur aunts and then they could talk to ur dad/mom/granddad or whomever u think should know. because horses are very important to people especially to kids because (really, they are JUST like having a best friend, you can talk to them, play with them, or even just goof around and dress them up! lol
i actually do know how u feel. because i am only 1 year younger then u (13) and i have to bord my horse! so i dont' even get to see my big gurl every day and it really sux! but at least we are moving to were we can have her :D
so yea just kinda maybe think about telling ur aunt. because us gurls need to stay connnected with our horses, not having them is like, not haveing a brother/sister.
hope everything works out good!

-mel