go round and round about something that happed in the past? It's a long story but basically something happened before we got married, my mom has issues with him, and he has never been able to get past it. My mom has said sorry and has accepted him in the family and wants to move on, but it seems that nothing is good enough for him. What would you do to try and help the situation? It's a constent fight between us. I just want everyone to get along.
2007-06-22 09:58:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a hard one...on one hand I do feel that he has the right to be angry, but on the other hand I'm one to forgive and forget. I just wish that he would realize that when we brings up the past and fights about it, he's not hurting my mom he is hurting me and our marriage. I love my husband so much I just wish he could move on for our sake. Make sense?
2007-06-22 10:23:39 · update #1
He holds a grudge and hasn't forgiven her, even though she has said she is sorry.
Is he wrong for doing so? That depends, but he obviously does NOT feel he is wrong for holding this grudge. Perhaps he believes that the apology was insincere, and was just said to give the appearance of peace.
Meanwhile, he may sense that your mother still does not approve of whatever the thing is. "my mom has issues with him" reeks of that her apology was not sincere.
Am I right or wrong?
It's all guesswork without knowing the particulars, but I'm not half bad at psychology
2007-06-22 10:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No we don't go round and round, but I suppose in our weaker moments we allude to a previous fight. Fortunately these weaker moments are few - once every few years.
I think the next time this issue surfaces you must firmly say that it is over and that he needs to deal with that fact. And then don't allow it to be brought up - walk out of a room if you have to.
Good luck
mg
2007-06-22 11:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by Matt G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to leave it in the past and get over it.
2007-06-22 10:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by humble servant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop it, none issue...you apologized once, its a non issue now. If he wants to continue to fight about it then its a problem for him not you.
2007-06-22 10:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't let go of the past...then quite possibly this is not the man for you
2007-06-22 10:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is holding on to a resentment and needs to let go of it and give it to God
2007-06-22 10:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by pixie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have an answer to this, but I do have a similar problem. If you get a satisfactory answer would you PLEASE email me and let me know what it is. Thank you so much !! angel.5150@yahoo.com
2007-06-22 10:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by Nichole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried and dicuss this isue with him? It is easier to talk things out.
2007-06-22 10:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by maram 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk what to tell you the same thing is happening to me. We just don't know how to overcome the past. Or maybe your mom hasn't proven she's sincere
2007-06-22 10:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by eld13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking about it and ignore him.
2007-06-22 10:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋