I just broke up with my girl because i couldnt get her to devote some time to me, she was to focused on her career. Just because i am a guy i should be able to express my feelings about a relationship. I wanted to marry this girl but couldnt face being second fiddle to everything else in her life
2007-06-22 09:54:27 · 16 answers · asked by Jason M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ummm broke up with the girl you wanted to marry...
what if you don't find someone that close to
what you want....than your up ****'s creek
w/o a paddle...did you try talking this over
with her?! && she couldn't do anything
about it?! You should make sure her
heart was in the same palce yours
was...good luck maybe you should
talk to her about it still....well
good luck stranger!! :D
hope everything works out
2007-06-22 09:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by manda102285 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You weren't necessarily wrong, just maybe a little selfish. Why is it ok for men to focus on their careers and/or their friends, but not women? Women are supposed to be ok with spending time alone or keeping the house while men are earning a living. It works both ways.
Now all you have to do is wonder, forever and ever, if you made the right decision. Everything might've changed if you had talked to her, or asked her to marry you even. Some women focus on their careers until marriage, then devote the same amount of time and energy to their relationship and family. She might've been one. Or not. Guess you'll never know.
2007-06-22 17:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing, you two are not compatible. Resentment would eventually have killed the marriage.
Examine if you are being too needy and if you don't believe so, then next time be more careful to pick out someone who will fulfill your needs. My marriage ended because he couldn't put me even in the top ten list of most important things in his life. But he didn't matter to his father so he never learned how.
2007-06-22 17:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her career is the money maker here. And if she has no career there is no money. I think maybe you might've been a little selfish on this one. Lets just say she devoted her time to you and no career, and you got married ,, you'd need that 2nd income.. because money is a big factor in marital problems that lead to divorce.
2007-06-26 14:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by shawna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are not wrong. And good for you!!
When it comes to the decision on placing your love and trust in someone for a lifelong commitment, you made the right call.
Don't settle, and don't let anyone shame you because they want to shame you into feeling bad about your decision.
With the state of marriage and divorce in this country, you should be very picky about who you decide to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-06-22 17:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by lyricshade2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you werent wrong. Better now than a costly nasty divorce. You shouldnt play 2nd fiddle to anything in a marriage it should be equal right from day 1 !!!
2007-06-22 16:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by Hopeless 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've discussed it before and it didn't look like she was going to change, then yes you did the right thing. If, however, you weren't clear about your feelings or didn't give her the opportunity to wind things down in order to try and spend more time with you, then you weren't fair. Only you know which scenario is correct.
2007-06-22 17:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by bklyngal28 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the way things are going now are a good indication of how it will go in the future.
being married to someone you love with all your heart is not worth the agony of being treated bad for a lifetime.
2007-06-26 16:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have different goals in life than she does...leave it at that. Her priorities do not mesh with yours. Part and be friends. No problem except it hurts bad for awhile. All this passes with time. Good luck and peace.
2007-06-22 17:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. If she can't make time for you whats the sense in getting married?
2007-06-22 17:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋