We all lost contact but recently me and my then best friend got back in touch. Now she is asking if she can come live with me my fiance and my son. Should I trust her?
2007-06-22 09:50:29 · 63 answers · asked by shayshay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. once a b'yotch, always a b'yotch!
2007-06-22 09:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by napqueen 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I am sure she honestly didn't intend to sleep with your boyfriend the first time. She probably was telling the truth when she said it just happened and was beyond her control. If she lives with you and your finance now then it will just happen again. That’s because she doesn't know how to control herself or behave around other peoples boyfriends.
So the question is can you trust your fiancé because you should know you can't trust her. It takes two but you’re going to be putting him under a lot of strain. She will hit on him. That’s not a question. Will he say no every single time no matter what? She can't help being who she is. She’s a predator and men are prey. Your actual dilemma is whether your fiancé can hold her off because she’s going to try.
No doubt about it. Some girls are just built that way.
2007-06-22 10:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a similar thing, it broke my heart, relationship with my ex and my best friend.
After totally going wild getting married quickly to the next guy, drinking heavily and almost loosing control of my life through bitterness, something stopped me. I split from a violent marriage, stopped drinking and forgave the 2 people involved. I felt like a weight had lifted off my shoulders however no i would not trust her again.
You know deep down you can not trust this friend you for gave as it will put an impossible strain on your relationship at home, please be very care full and good luck..............
2007-06-22 09:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by angijd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to hear this but if i were u i would not! she has slept with your x now she might try to sleep with your fiance and even do something bad to your son. bringing in a friend could hurt your relationship with your fiance cuz he might not like her cuz she leaves a mess in the house and other excuses. tell her i'm sorry but i can't trust u. i stopped trusting u when u slept with my x. now u want to come to my home after u did that. i don't think so.
2007-06-22 09:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by i luv miguel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....once that trust has been broken there is no getting it back. Apperantly if she was that good of a friend she would have never done that. You would be driving yourself crazy wondering what she may be trying to do with your man when your not home. I don't believe it would be worth it. Plus it could cause problems between you and your fiance.
2007-06-22 09:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by ryeeeeit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt trust her.
SOrry to say that, but having your ex best friend who slept with one of ur boyfriends in your home where you have your fiance and son???
You would be settin yourself up.
Doesnt mean you can't trust her period...just cant trust her in these circumstances.
So just tell her straight up that she lost that trust when she slept with you man.
If she is a true friend she will fight for your trust and understand.
2007-06-22 09:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mandi R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't trust her. Some people might say give her another chance, but if you did, then once she lived with you, you would probably be really paranoid and worried that it would happen again, and that might get in the way of your relationship with both your fiance and your friend! So I don't think it would be worth it.
2007-06-22 09:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't think u shouldn't she might add problems into your life and plus I've been a in similar situation and I'm telling you it didn't in that well and that doesn't mean that you don't trust her but you just have to beware of the fact that she might do it again , but i think that maybe you should talk to her and be up front about the situation i mean some people say forgive and forget bu t it some things that you don't for get. maybe you should talk to your fiance about the situation and you trust him then you might could consider it
2007-06-22 09:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by malshe39 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Even if your fiance does not sleep with her, she may still try. That's the whole point. She isn't trustworthy. What if instead of trying to sleep with him she instead decides to take your jewelry to the pawn shop or something like that. best friends who betray trust on that level should be cast away never to return.
2007-06-22 09:53:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!! way this girl obviously is not a true friend, and cannot be trusted, y should you do her a favor when she destroyed your friendship so bitterly, my advice tell her to leave me alone or if your not that mean make up some excuse, keep away from people like that, it will benefit u best :D:D
2007-06-22 09:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, if she slept with your boyfriend, you can guess that she will sleep with your husband. You don't deserve her just asking you if she could live in YOUR home out of no where. In my opinion, she wasn't your friend at all if she slept with your boyfriend those years ago. Good luck to you, hun.
2007-06-22 09:54:53 · answer #11 · answered by ♥HAL♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋