celebrate your wedding anniversary even though that you and your spouse are trying to work things out..??...why??
2007-06-22 09:39:01 · 19 answers · asked by islandgirl06 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would. It's something you can consider a time-out.. and, if things go smoothly, you both might find more motivation to make sure things work out. Others think that these kinds of things can distract them from the real problem.. like, for example, if things go well on such a celebration, both husband and wife will forget their problem and be okay again.. without really solving it. The trick to remind each other that afterwards, work still has to be done. If we can all let such a situation serve as motivation, then it wouldn't be bad to celebrate. Put your guards down and remember what it was like when ti all started.. find your inspiration there and work it up. It's not to serve as a marking of a clean slate, although it seems to work for others. Just something to bring back sparks, to bring it to high gear and keep working at it. :)
2007-06-22 09:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Rogee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should after all isn't that a step in trying to work things out .think when you celebrate it you two can focus on when you got married and why you got married in the 1st place yes things change after you get married but the reasons you fell in love ,, are the same .. everyone has a bad side but when you think of the good ..it's often over shadows the bad .. it's strange you probably have 1000 things you both love about one another but only 3 or 4 you don't ...yes sometimes those 3 or 4 seem worth throwing it all away 4....but honest if you both focus on the good you will be amazed at how the bad fades away
2007-06-22 13:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by kevin p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every marriage has some level of problems. By your somewhat cryptic question I inferr the two of you are going through a really bad time right now. This is the PERFECT time to celebrate your anniversary. Now more than ever. An aniversary is the perfect time to realize the two have lasted to this milestone point in your lives together, and whatever is going on in your lives right now doesn't amount to squat compared to the time you've had together. You're at a perfect point to let go of what ever thing is souring the two of you, and renew your relationship. It takes more love to say I love you when things are bad between you, that it does when things are going smooth. And It's a thousand times more vital to say I love you during these bad times.
Good luck. Happy anniversary.
2007-06-22 15:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your saying there are problems in your marriage and your anniversary is coming up then YES. Celebrate. maybe it will remind you what you saw in each other when you first got together. Sometimes we get settled into our marriages and get complacent. We take each other for granted. Sometimes we need to realize that we are all human and make mistakes. Try not to dwell on the problems for just one day and maybe it could lead to two, three. Good Luck
2007-06-22 09:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're trying to work things out then yes, then yes, you should celebrate your wedding anniversary.
2007-06-22 09:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still did when I went through problems. It depends how severe the damage has been. I would say celebrating would be a good start on to fix things with your spouse.
2007-06-22 09:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how petty you want to be. If your still married and never divorced, celebrate. Remember why you fell in love the first time and see if you can rekindle that love once more. If your divorced, nope I wouldn't. That day is just a memory now. If you can manage to work things out and get re-married then you will have a new date to celebrate on.
2007-06-22 11:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by biggdaddy1669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were trying to work things out then I think it would be very important to celebrate your anniversary.
2007-06-22 09:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly WANT to work things out you should definitely celebrate it. Memories of why you got married in the first place and that special day before all the problems could cause a renewed effort.
2007-06-22 14:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. More often than not, it will help the situation.
Of all the couples I counsel, I STRONGLY urge them to celebrate their anniversaries. I have them make a rule that there is no fighting, just talking and reminiscing and getting to know one another again.
Go for it, and good luck
2007-06-22 09:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by Yogi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋