I dont think it is healthy in a relationship & it makes me ill. Is it just, my problem or is it a real problem?
2007-06-22 09:35:17 · 42 answers · asked by Leggs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are married then it should be a marital decision, period.
If the guy is hiding it, then it's wrong, period.
If you agree it's ok, then fine...
If you feel it is wrong and he continues anyway, then he doesn't respect you, period.
2007-06-22 10:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is a real problem. I don't see anything healthy about the exploitation and degradation of women. If the people who like watching porn think that the majority of the women in these things like what they are doing, they are deluding themselves. There are tasteful ways of admiring the human body, which can be beautiful, but the porn that most people are referring to is not tasteful or beautiful. I think it can warp the perceptions and expectations of what a sexual encounter should be like for those that engage in porn. It really has no place in a relationship.
2007-06-22 10:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, it would be a few things - one being what TYPE of porn are we talking? There is some freaky, and distasteful stuff out there. If I caught my hubby looking at gay porn for example, that would be it for me! The other aspects I would consider is if he is hiding it from me and does it take AWAY from our intimacy. It may be a huge turn on and you reap the benefits. Watching it together will get you past that uncomfortable feeling. In all actuality the reason you feel ill is it makes you so uncomfortable, that is not something we grow up seeing everyday - it's taboo. Join in, pick what you like - you might be surprised.
2007-06-22 09:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by Carey L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the same as looking as a magazine in some cases, if he does it once in awhile it should be fine,My man does, my ex did it ,and everyone Else's man does that I know of, the question is does he relive himself also while watching the porn or does he come back to you? Do watch porn with your man like on a DVD? I Don't think there is anything wrong with it ,I know it hurts but it's just a man thing , let go and join in, I have even went to the strip club with my man , I know he loves me and I'm secure with that and I am better looking then any stripper or porn star....................
2007-06-22 13:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by wilma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree, I don't think it's healthy in relationships. As a matter of fact, it destroyed my marriage. It all started out innocently but as soon as I "accepted" the behavior he became addicted. We could never have sex without porn, he couldn't get it up. I am a very sexually person and am up for just about anything but he got addicted to "hard core" porn and I couldn't compete with that nor did I want to. That's why he's my EX!!!
2007-06-22 09:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you as a man that if my wife consistently is not wanting to have sex or is willing to have sex but she doesn't really want to, then that makes me more likely to look at porn. There is no fear of rejection. I think that is one reason men look at porn. I'm not really into porn. I would much rather be with my wife. I'll bet most other men are that way too. I guess men just have more desire for sex and most women view it as a chore and so eventually men try to get it somewhere else. If you are willing to have sex with your man and you are really into having sex with him, then he probably won't even consider looking at porn, he won't have a reason to!
2007-06-22 11:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by Randomguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a combination. You don't like it, which is fine, except that it is a reality and has been for thousands of years in some form. A guy can get addicted, but that is not common. Some people think any one looking at porn is addicted, but that is like anyone having a beer is an alcoholic.
2007-06-22 10:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Same way I feel about anything else being used for entertainment: if it's every once in a while just for fun, it's fine. But if it was eating into his work or family time, then it's a problem. It goes for porn, drinking, video games, parties, etc. Fun=good, dysfunctional addiction=bad.
2007-06-22 09:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not every man views porn. When you are in a relationship, if something like this makes you uncomfortable, and your partner insists on still doing it... that's a good indication that its never going to change. So your choices are... put up with it or move on. Good luck
2007-06-22 09:40:32 · answer #9 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
It's not just your problem. Although it is extremely prevalent and seems natural to most guys, it still hurts to know he's seeking that out.
Just understand a couple of things. One, it may actually decrease his likelihood of actually cheating. And two, he can still be very much in love with you and attracted to you, even though he's seeking out the porn.
You have every right to feel and communicate how you feel about this.
2007-06-22 11:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I feel the same way about porn. We do not need it. We feel that if we did then one day we would see our children in one just as punishment. We do not want our children to think it is okay. It is degrading to woman and to an act of love between a husband and wife.
2007-06-22 09:50:21 · answer #11 · answered by sewcrafty 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋