Should I tell my husband what I did?????

Question

I kinda kissed his (married) brother. I love my husband very much. I do not know how I let it happen. He repects his brother very much. Everything is as it it never happened. I do not want to ruin the relationship they have. I know. I am a bad person. What should I do????

Answer 1

Unless you want to ruin a great relationship, and hurt your spouse don't tell him. If you know it is not going to happen again (which I'm assuming you agree), then what good would it do to tell him? Yeah, you'll feel less guilt about it, but you've already done enough harm, that would simply be selfish.

Answer 2

First of all, you are not a bad person. Never say that. Mistakes and situations occur in a moment unexpected. Now, you find a calm moment and talk to your husband. If the kiss was just a pass by thing and your husband brother does not want to get involved with you, then it was a mistake an error. It happend in an instant. Now, if he seeks you, has called you or anything, then he still wants to see you. So no matter what tell your husband about it. But do not give the beat around the bush. A married couple should never hide things from each other because later on in the future something could happen. So to prevent future problems, then dialogue with him about what happend and tell him that it was an error. When you said "kinda", this if I am correct means that it was a kiss to show family love or that you love him as if he was your own big brother and you wanted to show that he is appreciated. Now, some men can miss interpret a kiss. If it was on the cheek no problem, but on the mouth well, he can think that maybe you are on to him. But anyway tell your husband in private how it happend. You say everything is as if nothing happend, but still get the air claired so as to avoid a future reoccurence. I had a similar experience, but with a great friend of my ex husband. He was a great friend to us and married, but he kissed me first. We had a get together in our home and there were other people so to avoid everyone getting in the scene, I waited until they left, then privatly away from our children I told him. He was upset and told me that he never wanted his friend over ever again. So tell your husband but away from the kids (if you have children) and tell him how it happened. This is to show that you always tell the truth and you want him to be always interested in what you do.

Answer 3

Well, I think if you want to keep your husband, you should just not tell him. Telling him isn't going to change anything, other than his trust in you. It's just going to cause a fight and it's going to cause problems between your husband and his brother. If you don't have feelings for your brother-in-law, and he doesn't have feelings for you, there is no reason to hurt your husband by telling about the stupid thing you did. Just DON'T do it again!!! If you love your husband, you shouldn't have a problem with that. If you continue to have a relationship with the brother or if you have another kissing encounter, then I would say that you probably need to talk to him, and you shouldn't be married to your husband.

Answer 4

would you want to know if he kissed your sister. The thing is why did you let it happen and how do you feel now that it's happened. If you feel truly guilty then hopefully you learned your lesson. What's sad is your husband respects his brother but obviously his brother doesn't respect him very much. The right thing to do is tell your husband because marriage is suppose to be based on honesty. And your afraid of ruining their relationship, you should of thought of that when you kissed his brother.

Answer 5

Sounds strange but I would want to know if I was him, Now the problem is if his brother felt guilty and would tell him years later, you are the bad person then. Right now, You are but you can fix it. If you fix it, you may ruin his brothers relationship. So I would say, dont tell him.....tell the brother it was a mistake and you love your husband very much.

Answer 6

There is no kinda kissed or slept with his brother you either did it or you didn't.. keep your mouth shut his brothers wife will probably for give him and your hubby will forgive his brother so were would that leave you but out in the cold.... Who is best in bed i have always wanted to sleep with brothers (preferably twins) to compare i have slept with two women who were sisters (on different occasions) and there most defiantly is a difference.

Answer 7

If his brother is not going to tell him then you should keep the secret too. If you are truly sorry and know it will never happen again then don't hurt him with the information. It will not only hurt your relationship with him, but the relationship between him and his brother. On top of that, it will hurt your sister-in-law. Hopefully, you have learned from your mistake. By making this one mistake you have the potential to hurt a lot of people.

Answer 8

"kinda kissed"?
Hun, there's no kinda here. You either kissed him with some passion, or you kissed him like a peck on the cheek to your grandmother.
Something tells me it wasn't the latter.

So...what's the real confession here? The first confession is to yourself.
"I kissed him with passion" say that five times. Admit it to yourself.
This is a battle in your own mind...and what could have possessed you to do such a thing. What is acceptable behavior? Probably this type of kissing is taboo, yes? So slap yourself on the face once or twice and be done with such thoughts.

Answer 9

You know, it sounds dishonest, and it is, but I would not say anything about it. If there is a chance that the other person could expose this little episode, then you want to make sure you admit to it first, before someone finds out... but otherwise, I would take it as a lesson in your own weakness and be prepared to avoid things like that in the future.

I got caught doing this... I'm telling you what I wished I had done. I wish that the other person had kept their mouth shut, or that I would have come clean before they said anything. It did show me how weak minded I can be in certain situations.

Answer 10

I wouldn't tell. Some things just are not worth messing up your family. If the two of you are not in love then talk to his brother about what happened. Make him swear to never tell his wife or your husband. It won't ever get out unless someone tells someone else.