I have been married to my wonderful husband for one year, and he is the only person I have ever had sex with...great sex...we are really happy in our marriage and neither of us would ever cheat on each other but every now and then I have urges to have sex with other men, like my ex or my manager at work, anybody. I don't, of course, and could never see myself doing a thing like that, but I just want to. I guess I wanna be bad and get away with things, be sneaky...I don't know why...is this normal? I don't know why I have these urges.
2007-06-22 09:13:19 · 16 answers · asked by Loola 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your husband is the first and only man you have been with, it is natural to want to expierence other relations. That is part of growing and developing your sexual awareness. Unfortunately, unless your husband is very understanding, caring, and open minded (like me) you are not going to be able to do that now. I would recomend trying as many new and different things with your husband as you possibly can to help discover your sexual self. Maybe check a few porn sites to get ideas and see what might appeal to you. If it looks fun, you might find it is fun. Or you might find it is not as pleasurable as you thought it would be. But I suspect that is all you are feeling. If you have urges to be with different men, tell your husband to be different men. Roleplaying can be fun. There are lots of adult oriented stores where you can get clothes and things to allow you to "experiment" without having to do anything that either of you will regret.
2007-06-22 09:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by s1lvermidnight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its very normal because you haven't got to experience many guys. i am a firm believer in "getting it out of your system." you won't know what you really like until you try a few things. You are just like any other person that has only had one lover and married them. Don't worry. Maybe you got married to young. You must be really hot and your husband had to marry you to keep you away from other men.
2007-06-22 16:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by deadwood_domico 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. Getting all upset about it is also normal, but it can cause problems. When I accepted this fact about other people, it made my relationships a lot easier. Furthermore, I know that if a person loses their ability to recognize beauty, their life is not as full, and I would never want to stifle that. Enjoyment of the beautiful parts of the world is everyone's right, within limits.
2007-06-22 16:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by polly_peptide 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's quite a normal situation for people who marry the 1st/only person they ever had sex with. That's one of the reasons a lot of people do not advocate abstinence until marriage.
2007-06-22 16:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is common. You'll probably also find that these urges are stronger during specific times of your "cycle" and once you find that pattern, you'll be better able to predict them and explain them away. How you deal with the urges is of utmost importance to the future of your marriage.
2007-06-22 16:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by getaclueppl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal for me. Just keep them a fantasy and go home to your husband. Its okay to think naughty but no acting while being married.
2007-06-22 16:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
women like men have the urge its normal dont worry in some cases it can make your sex life hotter
2007-06-22 16:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by finnlecarb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its normal..and fun to fantasize I might add. By the way, I'm married too...7 years and 3 kids later, yup still fantasizing.
2007-06-22 16:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Lauren 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 things you can do to make it allright:
1. When you think about other men, imagine their head on your husband's body.
2. Think of your husband's head on their body.
That way you are not cheating.
2007-06-22 16:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by Tourang B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Normal YES, however thinking and doing are totally different, but I am single and available*....
2007-06-22 18:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋