Gay men "courting" gay men...?

Question

When I lived in West Hollywood, Los Angeles, roughly 90% of my friends in my apartment were gay, or classified themsleves as gay.

The human being notices patterns. I noticed my friends would typically have relationship, after relationship, after relationship as often as most people change their underwear, and often would bed down with virtually anything and everything. I have seen statistics(although it was just one study), that for instance, a gay man in his prime in San Francisco would have on average 200-250 "partners" per year.

This made me think. Is the real problem with having a relationship with a woman, the fact, most woman are not "easy", and require at least some form of courtship? Let's face it, there is a reason why lesbians buy strap-ons...they want the very same thing a real man would give them, but somehow, they want it from a woman, and the same goes for a gay man, yet intimacy does not seem to be part of the equation(and I am not confusing sex for intimacy).

Can people come back with something better than the "what's your question", when the title of the original question is as obvious as your gayness...

Answer 1

You say..."Let's face it, there is a reason why lesbians buy strap-ons...they want the very same thing a real man would give them"

No honey. Not all lesbians want or use toys. We do NOT want what a man has, we want what a woman has - emotionally, physically, sexually.

The rest of your diatribe I've ignored.

Answer 2

I have had this same discussion with my gay son. He despairs of finding someone with whom a committed relationship is possible. He desires long term commitment and intimacy, but has yet to find anyone in the gay community that has the same desire. Perhaps it is because once a gay man does finally settle with another in a more or less permanent relationship, they sort of drop out of the picture. Their long term ties are not so apparent to observation, leaving only those with a promiscuous nature and an inability to commit on the scene. I don't know for sure, neither does my son. I live in constant hope that as he passes into more mature groups, he will find someone with the same desire for long term intimacy...I'd hate to think of him being alone all his life.

Answer 3

not all lesbians buy a strap-on, but of those that do, I am sure there is a reason besides they want what a man has.
I was in a poly amorous relationship, with a woman AND a man. We bought a strap-on and it was used, by him on us, by us on each other, and never on him. We wanted variety, not what he had. (He has a perfect one, and uses it well) it was just something different.
As far a gay men courting each other, look around. They do it all the time. I have had a few male friends that are gay, and they were usually in long term relationships, not bed hoppers.

Maybe you should do more research.

Answer 4

My straight friends do the media portray of gays in comedy did a lot of pos work in helping gays being accepted It took away in most part the beastie pederfile image in the 50-60s and women started to like gays as friends and give the confidence for men to come out with the birth of gay lib

Answer 5

Ask proffesional athletes how many women they have sex with per year, even the married ones.

Do not think heterosexual males and females are any less promiscuous.

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Answer 6

Your hypothesis extremely flawed. The sample group is not representative enough of the entire community in the first place. Therefore, it comes across as fallacious propaganda.

Answer 7

DO you have a question or are you just wasting time?

Answer 8

I really do not know what you are trying to ask.

Answer 9

ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ.... sorry I dozed off.

What was the question? Was there a point?

Answer 10

What is your question?