3 years ago I was infertile. My husband agreed to hire a surrogate. We had a child, 1/2 his and the other 1/2 the surrogate's. He did not really want a child, but did it for me because I was heartbroken at the thought of never being a mother. He (claims) he became jealous of my attention towards our new baby. I found out a year ago he was having an affair with his employee. She was married and had 2 kids, limited education and bland looks. I was irate and told him I was leaving. Her love note to him that I found made my blood boil! He said that I would have to leave our daughter too. I stayed. I have zero legal rights to her. I am still very angry at him and I really just want to get my own place and be at peace. He has stressed that no other man will be allowed around his daughter...ever. Dispite all that has transpired, we are very civil towards one another (we have been together for 12 years) My trust in him is zero and I sit here wallowing in the fact that I am sooo screwed.
2007-06-22 09:05:34 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The surrogate's name is on the birth certificate. The surrogate refused to relinquish her parental rights and attempted to sue him for support. My husband is the managing conservator and she has visitation. It goes back to the courts for review on our child's 4th b-day. When the custody issue came up he claimed his lawyer reccomended we divorce so the surrogate couldn't garnish my salary. He said he would drop the case if I didn't sign. My family doesn't even know we are not married and I wasn't allotted anything except my car payment in the divorce. What was I to do, I just wanted to protect the baby. He was protecting his fortune.
2007-06-22 09:27:31 · update #1
I would disagree that you have 0 legal rights to the child. If you and your husband entered into a legal agreement, then you both have rights to the child. Parenting is not just about the chemistry required to conceive the child.
Is HE telling you you don't have any rights, or have you been told that by a legal professional? If you're acting based only on what he's telling you (threatening you with), the STOP IT and do your own research. Find out for yourself vs. listening to his idle threats.
Thanks for the extra details. Sounds like you have done your homework. I wish I had some great suggestions for you, but I don't. I suppose it comes down to whether or not you love the baby more than you hate him because it sounds like you either take both of them or neither. God bless you and I hope this all works out for you.
2007-06-22 09:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by getaclueppl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job file for divorce with custody. You have rights also. You will at least get visitation at the least if not him with just visitation. You are the mother and have rights.
2007-06-22 16:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly what getaclueppl said
2007-06-22 16:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋