Hey
Im a sixteen year old guy. I feel attracted to girls and guys. However I can not see myself in a long-term relationship with a guy, only girls. However I still feel attracted to guys. So am I bisexual. If so, should I come out? Is it nessisary to come out? and if my parents are against it (I dont know if they are, because I have never talked to this with them) what will I do because I am only 16, its not like I can leave.
Thank you soo much for your help during this difficult time.
2007-06-22 08:59:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
could I be bi-curious.
If so..how long will it last?
2007-06-22 09:01:32 · update #1
If you are attracted to both genders, then you are bisexual. You don't need to have sex to find out. If the attraction is there and you know it is...then you can know if you are bisexual. Coming out isn't necessary. If you don't feel like coming out, then don't! If you do, then just tell them!
2007-06-22 09:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by staroftheuniverses21 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How about you take time with yourself to ponder this and then come to a conclusion. You are only 16. Nothing has to be decided right now. Just be open to all experiences that come your way.
Once you are SURE you are either bi or gay, then you can tell your parents. Otherwise, I would just keep this on the DL from them (due to the fact that you dont know their stance on the subject).
E-mail me if you have any other questions... Im kinda in the same boat. I am a girl, think I like both, but have a tendancy to lean towards guys.
2007-06-22 16:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by sweetblueyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just based on this information, I can't really give you a straight answer (no pun intended). I am straight, but I don't see anything wrong with being bisexual. If you feel like the possibility of being bisexual isn't going to be supported, just wait a little bit. You should first see if this is your sexuality before bringing it out into the open for harsh criticism that you may not be able to handle. Besides, if you're not sure, why put yourself in a position that could cause unnecessary tension with your parents?
You should do whatever you feel is right for you, but I would suggest being sure of your sexuality before taking action. Good luck!
2007-06-22 16:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by immortal.whisper 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you're going through now is perfectly healthy and natural. Puberty's a time of change, and questions about sexuality often arise in teenagers (Even if they're not comfortable about it) and my advice to you at this time would simply be, to wait and see how you feel in the future; you may find that you decide that you do like guys and only guys, or only girls, or both, and whatever seems most appealing to you is what's best for you. As for coming out, I'm not really an expert, but if you feel confident enough in your sexuality to state it aloud, then go for it. I'd recommend talking to your parents about what you're feeling (they can be more understanding than you might think), but if you don't feel you can, then maybe you can find someone impartial to confide in. Only my initial thoughts.
2007-06-22 16:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a tough one cause i know at 16 i used to think i was attracted to both, however deep down i knew i was more into guys. But the thing was i didnt think i would fall for a guy emotionally. I always had emotional connections with girls.
When i got older i just knew i couldnt keep the fact that i was so attracted to guys in any longer and i came out as Bi. Later on i realized that once i was in relationships with guys it wasn't so hard. But kept asking myself will i have "REALLY FALL" for a guy. Happens to be that i have. I am in love and its all perfect. Yes, i will have difficult paths to take while growing as a person being gay but at least i know who i am now. And honestly i didnt know who i really was till i was like 21 yrs old. I am 25 now.
So Moral is that you have time to figure out your feelings. Don't Rush... IF you are bi.. ur bi.. if ur gay ur gay.. if ur straight ur straight.. Dont worry about labels.. Just be U!
2007-06-22 17:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by J-Craze 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're still young and finding out who you are. There's nothing to be gained by labeling yourself, to yourself or to anyone else. Why would you think it was necessary to "come out"? You're still the same person either way. And if you're not sure, then there's certainly nothing to be gained.
At the same time, it's easier if you have someone you can talk to about your feelings. Friends are sometimes best. As far as your parents are concerned, if they haven't ranted against gays by now, they probably aren't the type to throw you out of the house, so I wouldn't worry about that. If you feel close enough to one or both of them for this kind of topic, it may make your life easier if you admitted your concerns to them.
Otherwise, give yourself some more time and more social experience. People your age who aren't sure of who attracts them more usually find it clearer by the time they're in college. It will sort itself out eventually.
2007-06-22 17:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you might be just curious and the only why to find out is if you are with a guy. once you are with a guy you will see if you want to be with them more and more and if you are them your bi. but don't say anything to your parents unless your sure your are bi and not bi curious. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-06-22 16:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by Adina B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you sure are innocent.
I'm not really sure what you are at this point. Like someone suggested, you could be bicurious and it could last your whole life. However, it is not a necessity to come out if you don't think it'll be any good. Wait until you are sure at least.
Bye! ^_^
2007-06-22 20:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need or have to label yourself. If you happen to end up with a guy or girl in the long run, then so be it.
2007-06-22 16:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by happy kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in your your exploratory stage of your life....you should postpone marriage, until you are sure.....everyone goes thru this stage to some degree......you may have a friend or co-worker of the same gender, who you may be attracted to....this is normal
2007-06-22 16:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by kennifersecret 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋