What happened?Well, a family situation took place that sorta caused my husband to clam up and not want to talk about things.Then all of a sudden after 4 years of me working night shift he decides he wants me to quit and stay at home.I made as much as him and didn't want to give up my job.So for a couple of months we couldn't agree on anything. We talked with a counselor and she suggested a trial separation along with my best friend(or what I thougt was my best friend)After 3 days of separtion.Husband comes and ask if I want a Divorce - H no is what I said, but he said he felt it best we get one.I was hard headed and told him to knock his self out.He did. My grandma calls Dec 2002 and tells me it's final she read it in the paper.Since then we are both involved with other people. My husband however is my true love, and I believe I may be his.The past year he has tried avoiding me at all cost, but our children keep telling me he's not happy as well as his friends. help!
2007-06-22 08:52:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to him tell him you still love him what do you have to loose, your pride don't let pride stand in your way you're already divorced so go for it all he can say is yes or no it won't change things any unless he says yes... Turn on the sex appeal girl you still got it... and we both know he still wants it why else would he be avoiding you..
2007-06-22 09:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may very well still love you. Why? You were married to the guy for 15 years. That's a long time no matter how you slice it. Even if the relationship was horrible, 15 years isn't something someone gets over that quickly, if ever. If you still love your husband, there's a good chance he may feel the same way.
My advice to you is to straight up be honest with him. Don't p u s s y foot around or play head games, just be 100% honest with him. Talk to him face to face, not on the phone, don't email, or instant message, I mean face to face and tell him: "Look you son of a b i t c h, I still love you and I want to know if you still love me. And if we love eachother then we should be together." (you may want to water down the language a bit :-)) It's that simple...didn't say it was easy, but this isn't complicated.
Grab the bull by the horns and just be honest with the guy...hell you were married to him for a decade and a half. The LEAST you can do is be straight forward with him.
Good luck
2007-06-22 09:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tricky situation. I would say that maybe trying to be friends again and keeping it simple is the best way to start assuming that is what he wants to. If you are able to do that then everything else will take care of itself. If the friendship goes well and you both still have strong feelings for each other, it will happen naturally. Both parties have to want the same thing or it won't work.
2007-06-22 08:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by David B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got a 25 year old boy when I was 27. A great feat by Indian standards forty years back. And I simply did not allow that guy to leave me. He now has sagging skin, protruding testes, but still I am not ready to exchange him for a 25 year old gigolo.
Get back that guy, Dau'ter. He is yours.
2007-06-22 08:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by sexy grandmother 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"the past year he is avoiding me at all costs"
This doesn't sound like someone who would like to run into you in order to fall into conversations together, it sounds like someone who is avoiding you.
However, sometimes we avoid people out of embarrassment, not because we don't want to talk to them.
The thing here is that you cannot assume that just because he is unhappy that he wants you.
Then again...why don't you just ask him in sometime when he's picking up the kids and give him a cup of coffee? You'll never know the answer to this one unless you try.
2007-06-22 10:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You divorced in 2002...so it was NOT a great marriage was it? Way past time for you to move on and allow yourself, and him, to find the happiness you seek.
2007-06-22 08:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move on! Let it go. It is in the best interest for you, him and the children!
2007-06-22 08:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Cali Girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
move on
you say you had a great marriage but i sure cant see WHERE it was great...
he has moved on, andf he wont be getting back with you- (unless its Just Sex)... move on!
2007-06-22 08:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋