we didnt go on Jerry Springer, we went on Dr. Keith Ablow Show, and, we have tried counseling, my husband thinks that it is for people with problems and he doesnt think we have probelms. Also, he always threatens to leave me, but never does. Another thing, I dont think I can make it on my own, finanicially it would be hard. I dont know what to do, I am super confused.
2007-06-22 08:36:09 · 18 answers · asked by sexyburnette99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-06-22 08:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by DARKSPIRIT 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well don't stay with him because you don't think you can't make it financially. If you are falling for his best friend then leave him. Don't be a leech on the man because you can't make enough money.
Sounds like you are self-centered, and your husband doesn't want to acknowledge that there is a problem. I would say you two need to leave each other. Especially if he threatens to leave you all the time. Chances are he either truely wants to get away from you or he uses that as a threat to get you into line the way he wants you.
This really isn't a difficult situation when you take all the immaturity out of it. You guys together are not working out. If you don't have kids then just cut and run. If you are worried about making if financially then you should go back to school or hook up with a guy with money.
2007-06-22 08:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Leave your husband and go for the good guy. Aww. I loves me some men in uniform. Actually, if you only sat up late ONE night, you're probably not falling in love. And if he's on active duty, he really doesn't need the extra drama right now. Be his friend, but don't drag him through your mud. Wait until you're free and clear from man #1.
Don't worry about the financial stuff. You can NOT stay with a man for money. You'll be able to stand on your own two feet, I promise you.
2007-06-22 08:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I answered your last question my name is Destiny. My answer is even more the same as before. But knowing more, helps. My husband said we had no problems too. I exhausted EVERY avenue in my marriage he attempted marriage counseling with me for about a month. He has been to jail more times than I can count! He has had court ordered drug and alcohol treatment, probation, anger management, and counceling. But those things don't work unless they think they have a problem! It is always your problem in their eyes. My husband wouldn't leave me either. For years I thought it was because he loved me so much and that so many guys in my past have just up and left me for no reason and sometimes I thought may be I shouldn't throw that away. but over the years I have learned that he was not staying out of love for me and the kids it was more like keeping us around so he always had someone to be mean too. It was his happy, safe, comfort zone that he did not want to give up...with the freedom to be as mean ad nasty as he wanted because he "knew" I wasn't going anywhere! Or so he thought. This is the third and final time I left him. I left him before for 8 months and for 6 months. I stupidly came back and things would be great for about 6 weeks and each time I came back he was eventually meaner and meaner. Because each time I came back he KNEW I wasn't gone forever and that he "had" me! Everytime before he gave me child support. I have lost my house and had to move in with my parents...sucks! I have been a stay at home mom since I was 18 with only a few retaurant jobs. So far no callback in the job department, he hasn't given me a dime in child support...yet he just went out yesterday and bought a new car! I was 100% dependant on my husband financially. I have been donating plasma just for gas and cigarettes. There are so many resources out there to help women. SRS can assist you in childcare, insurance and housing or cash assistance, and food stamps. I'm getting my divorce from the state 100% free because I have had a history of severe abuse. The worst thing through all of this is the being broke part. But as bad as it is now I know it will get better. Many churches will help also. I'm not a member but many in the community will provide people with gas vouchers and things to help them look for work. Exspect to lose alot in the money area. I know I did. But in Kansas, it is the law that whoever gets the kids gets the most reliable car...I walked away with all the household items too...and that was just the Protection From Abuse Trial and my spouse signed over full custody of the kids! They can't order support until the divorce hearing. But no matter how much I'm suffering financially...it wasn't as bad as waking up everyday feeling like I'm dying.
2007-06-23 03:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by Destiny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you think that anyone on here is going to be able to help you decide what to do? We DONT know you or the real circumstances you're facing. Read the Bible or pray! You are looking in all the wrong places to get the right answers
2007-06-22 08:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by okgirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you dont want to be with your husband..Stand up on your own 2 feet. You shouldnt need a man to take care of you.
And its not fair to your husband if you are falling for his friend
2007-06-22 08:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by mickey 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay sweetie.... First off find someone who is not his best friend because that will make things more difficult with visitation with the children he will never except his best friend taking his wife an children from him find someone he does not know.
2007-06-22 08:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u know(no think) u have no more feelings for ur husband any more then there is no use staying. if his best friend likes u too then why not give it a try ?
2007-06-22 08:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by kevin 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless your husband has committed adultery, you don't have the reason to divorce him. If he has done this you can divorce him and get half of everything, alimony and child support if there are children.
If he hasn't committed adultery, you are stuck with him. Remember your wedding vows? For better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer until DEATH do us part.
2007-06-22 08:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So you are just using soldier boy for his money to raise another mans kids. Again I will say . Grow Up and make it on your own.
2007-06-22 08:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by New Nana 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't go on those shows...they just exploit you. Try some christian counseling. Also you probably need to think about furthering your education so you can make it on your own. Quit being so helpless...you 're not!
2007-06-22 08:42:09 · answer #11 · answered by Mbh 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋