10 year old child with a disability ,?

Question

hi i have 4 kids one of them was born with one leg a lot shorter than the other ,he wears an prostetic limb ,he has hip problems has had a lot of operations to try and fix his hip , he has no proper knee it is too high ,he has p,f,f,d ,my question is how do i deal with people and most of the time it is the older people who think there is nothing wrong with him and having a go at me and his dad when we park in the disabled spots , he can walk but not far and we have a badge for him ,when he has long trousers he has a limp but you cant really tell he wears a prostetic limb only when he wears shorts , i get so angry and one day it could come to blows ,how do you deal with it , i have been called lots of names ,people have even said i stole the badge , i need advice do i just ignore it and let them treat me like muck ,i only use the badge when i have my son in the car ,xx

i do tell them i go off my head sometimes ,when they are really nasty .

Answer 1

Yes, it can be very frustrating. On one hand - it is good that people are now so proactive in trying shame the abusers of the parking permits but it also backfires on those who genuinely needs those parking spots but does not show any OBVIOUS disability.

I agree with some of the suggestions given by others:
- You need to ignore it. You have the permit. You DO NOT have to justify it to anyone. You DO NOT have to show his leg to anyone. He will only feel that he also need to justify his existence.
- React calmly to the situation. You will feel better about it afterwards and you will be a great role model for your son how to deal with people - as he will have to the rest of his life regarding hsi disability.
- Persevere. If you use the space regularly, people will get to know that you park there, and whether they still think you should or shouldn't be there, they will stop bothering you eventually. Even if they "report" you, they will likely get told by people who know about your situation. They will then get their serve of guilt and embarrassment of their past verbal abuses.

Hope this helps

Answer 2

I imagine it is frustrating to deal with this type of persons in our society. The truth is there is nothing much you can do to make the realization any better. There are rude people everywhere.
I feel that the best way to deal with this is to try to be the bigger person. Stand proud that your son is doing as well as he is and disregard the rude cruel words and looks.
I know easier said than done! I have dealt with many people w/ disabilities and have witnessed this so much. (I HAVE A DEAF FIEND< EX's BRO HAS CP AND WORKED FOR A CP PATIENT... people often thought he was drunk..)
It is so unnerving to be dealt the negativity. Just remember that you are setting an example for your family and that they will learn fromyour attitude... KILL THEM WITH KINDNESS...is all I can say! That gets them thinking!

Good luck to you and your son! :)

Answer 3

Respond calmly saying "Thank you for asking, I appreciate your concern, my son is disabled and I know it isnt your intent to embarass my child but I understand your frustration with people who use disabled parking who arent disabled."

Embarass THEM by being polite to them. It really works. I understand your frustration, I really do. My friend has the same problem - she has a serious heart condition.

Hey I was "pursed" by an old lady who asked me to lift a bag of flour from her shopping cart into her car !

When I said "I would love to be able to help you however I have an upper back disability and cant lift anything that heavy" she wacked me with her purse ! Several times, and called me a "good for nothing lazy *****" on top of it all.

My son was with me and was yelling "hit her mom" ROFLMAO Sometimes you just gotta see the humour dont you?

Some people are just ignorant, some are genuinely concerned with people who use Handicapped Parking. and good for them.

Perhaps the people harassing you are also embarassing the non-disabled into NOT using handicapped parking. We can only hope so.

Dont lose your cool - I often say, calmly, politely, to people who roll their eyes at me counting out change "I have a head injury whats your excuse for your behavior?"

Answer 4

There's no cure for such people. And believe me--thes jerks are NOT interested in "helping the disabled"--they are simply showing off to makethemselves be important. In a word--bulllies.

The best thing is to humiliate them. How itakes a bit of practice--but in essence it is this: such people are acting like bratty children. So treat them that way--YOU be the adult.

And/or--make fun of them. One thing no bully or self-important jerk can stand is to be laughed at--especially when they've clearly put theri foot intheir mouths.

The only caveat here is this: once you get the hang of this its fun to watch the rats scurying back into their holes! :) So most likely, if you're at all like me, you'll be tempeted to overreact. Always hear someone out--a lot of decent people will speak up when they see a possible violation of the parking (and other) rules. But they ask--and listen. And those are not jerks--they are decent concerned people and we need all of that we can get in ths crazy world.

Answer 5

You could try having your hubby drop you off at the front of the store. He can find a good parking place and you won't have the hassle. He can go back to the lot and get the car when you are done. People are ignorant and it stinks.

Answer 6

Just say our son has a prosthetic limb. He has a limp so just say he has a mobility disability. Some disability are hidden.

Just show them the leg. they are jealous as they missed out on a close park.

Answer 7

ha, just stick out your tounge and keep walking. If they are adament about it, they can call the cops and wait for them to get there. Then have you son show the officer the prosthetic leg, and those old crabasses will feel like a donkeys patootie. You have nothing to prove to them, you deserve that parking spot and who the he// are they to judge.

Answer 8

The most valuable thing you can do for your child is to react to these situations calmly and maturely. He's the one with the disability and he's the one who will have to function in society. It's fine to explain to him that some people are insensitive and rude, it's not fine to lose your cool or let him get the feeling that he has to explain himself to everyone.

Answer 9

tell them to mind their own bussiness you dont owe anyone an explaination. Be glad that your child does not have a noticable disability that people especially as he gets older can point and laugh at. There are two sides to every problem I know.

Answer 10

This is so rediculous i cant believe people like that with no morals still exist, u know i would just give them my happy finger but since that not the right way to do it just ignore them that will be the right thing to do but still that is people that have no education. I really have no patience with stupid jerks.