My ex-girlfriend and I were together 3 years, I promised marriage a few times, but just stalled and stalled and stalled. Well, when I thought we were just taking "time off" to think about what we really wanted, she reconnectd with an ex, then married him 5 months later. This is an obvious rebound marriage, I am sick to my stomach and love her too much.
This happened 3 months ago. Since then, she has emailed my mom many times, telling her how much she loves me, missed me, how she might have made a mistake, etc. But, she hasnt done anything about it, or has not gotten a divorce.
Her birthday is on Monday. It is so important for her. Should I email her? Do nothing?
2007-06-22 07:35:42 · 20 answers · asked by parkland5654 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do nothing. Or ask her husband if he'd mind you keeping in contact with his wife.
2007-06-22 07:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The old saying is true. You never miss your water until your well is dry. Also, Opportunity is like a bald head man if you do catch him when he goes by the first time you will never catch him. I looked like you moved to slow. Her problem is she now looks for you in her new husband therefore she does miss you. However you should love her enough to let her go. It is nothing wrong with being a friend to her and her husband and sending her an email wishing her A Happy Birthday Wish.
2007-06-22 07:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by Al Feel GoodH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you speak regularly if so then yes of course sounds like you are still friends, if you don't then it seems like you are going out of your way. She is an EX for a reason and unless you remained BBF's (best friends forever) move on, also if you have a new relationship you may want to just forget about it all together no girl like s to be in competition with the EX ever!
2007-06-22 07:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not get involved with her at all not even for a birthday and your mom should keep her nose out of the womans business to . Tell your mom to butt out ! I dont even know why our mom didnt handle it herself and not tell you about the emails. I dont thinks shes that great a catch anyway I mean taking off getting married while you thought you were on break . Move on !
2007-06-22 07:39:58 · answer #4 · answered by wishingstar5555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? Absolutely not. She's not your wife - she's someone else's wife. That's his job now.
You blew it - accept that. It's over. Move on.
Do nothing. Kiddo - you blew it - and she married someone else. It's over. Yes, perhaps everyone made mistakes - but it's over. Let it be over.
Say something to your mom about that too - that it's over. You really botched things up by dragging your feet and acting like a stupid fool - but that's what you get for being a stupid fool.
And she made mistakes too - marrying someone she shouldn't have - and now she's regretting it - or trying to string you and your family along - Really immature.
but the bottom line - she married someone else - and she had better decide to be more faithful to him - or else divorce him. But this fence-sitting? No.
And you and your mom shouldn't be encouraging her by responding to her emails etc.
2007-06-22 08:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard this before...from you actually. She's your ex. Why would you do anything? And stop being delusional; if she wanted to leave her husband to be with you, she would've done it already. Plus, she wouldn't have gotten married. Again I'll tell you, what kind of person gets married just for sake of being married. Seriously, you both need to grow up.
2007-06-22 07:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by ron-D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Email her with just an Happy Birthday nothing more..when she responds back dont respond...
My hubby wish me a happy mothers day over text when we were seperated and now we happy back together...
2007-06-22 07:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definetly wish her a happy birthday! It would be mean not to, you guys known each other and dated for a while so whats the harm of saying "hey happy birthday!"
2007-06-22 08:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by baby kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Focus on yourself and what is important in your life. She is your EX for a reason. Move on and better yourself. Do not concern yourself with her affairs or her life. Remember, focus on what is important in YOUR life at the moment.
2007-06-22 07:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by Meems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't do anything. You might still love her, but she moved on. Just take it day by day and you'll be fine.
2007-06-22 07:39:41 · answer #10 · answered by ScorpionOfLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋