I often have these feelings that my husband is still talking to his x-wife. They don't have any children together..., I just feel like they sould'nt be talking to one another. I don't want to be jelous.., or overwhelmed with the idea that my husband is doing something behide my back. I mean she called and left a msg. just to let him know she was back from her vacation. There not together anymore, why is she checking in with him...? I don't want to be that wife that's always breathing down there husband neck, but I'm hurt and I don't know how to deal with my feeling that I've been feeling. Can, comeone help me.., just talk to me about this?...HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-22 07:17:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ask him WHY the ex had to check in with him... only way to know what might be going on is to just ask
2007-06-22 07:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to tell your husband that his having contact with his ex is bothering you and since they are divorced and do not have any children together, you do not see any reason that he remain in contact with her. You need to let this be known to your husband in very clear terms. He needs to address this with her. If she calls, you need to answer the phone and talk to her. Be nice and sweet, just say, "he can't come to the phone right now, he is rubbing lotion on my legs and his hands are a mess." It is okay to let her know the two of you are intimate and close, one because you are married and that is okay and two because that is the very last thing she wants to hear. She wants to hear you are having troubles and that you are not happy. If she leave a message, call her back and say that you got her message and you would pass her message on to the "Sheet Monster" after your nooner. At all times, do not get mad, do not get angry, upset or anything like that, just be calm and sweet. You can even go as far as asking her if there is anything you can do for her.
2007-06-22 07:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yeah they must have been talking cause why else would she just say " I'm back" were they married along time like 10 years and shes single with no friends perhaps she wanted someone to know where she was in case of emergency. I think he "has some splanning to do Lucy" ( I love Lucy )
2007-06-22 07:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by leah j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can blame you for feeling this way; however, your husband needs to be the one to change the situation. Unless he makes it known to her and enforces his request to have her stop calling and/or making contact, this won't stop. It continues, cause your husband allows it. You can't be angry with her as wrong as she may be, because she has no obligation to you. Your husband is not showing you the respect you deserve by continuing this.
2007-06-22 07:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe us woman have this enter voice that tells us when something is wrong out of place and we have to pay action to it. you know that if your husbands ex is still calling and they have no children togather something is not right with that,and she is showing no respect to you either, talk this over with your husband let him take care of it and if he don't then you have your answer.
2007-06-22 07:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by snow-bunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds to me that he is doing something behind your back...I would call her up and ask her why she is checking in...polite not mean or anything...I am sure there is some really big explination behine it.
2007-06-22 07:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go with your gut not your head. Your gut is right 98% of the time. Maybe talk to him and see what is going on.. you'll be able to tell if he is lying to your face. And if he is pack your bags and leave.. You didn't mention if you had kids.. ??
2007-06-22 07:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you don't want to be that wife who breathes down her husbands back but yet......
You are
I think you are reading way to much into it. It could be nothing but then again it could be.............
Everything
2007-06-22 07:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call her & ask her why she is checking in with your hubby. Tell her stay out of your lives. If hubby gets mad then there is more to him & her.
2007-06-22 07:24:24 · answer #9 · answered by melody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you from the tv show Reba?
2007-06-22 07:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋