I have noticed this has happend to at least one person I know In fact 3 or more from different family's I was wondering what are the odds this will happen? Has it happened to someone you know or knew? Also why do most family's remain " Hush Hush" about it? What do you think?
2007-06-22 06:54:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well my mom's brother raped and molested my sister my cousin and my in the same night and at the time my grandma was dying. We all told my mom and she didn't call the cops because she didn't want my grandma to know how ******* sick her son was. It happens a lot and yes a lot of familes don't do nothing about it because 80 percent of the time it's someone close to the family or in the family that does it. What everyone doesn't realize is that when it happens to someone if they don't get help they are almost 100 percent likly to do it to someone themselves
2007-06-22 06:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by latisha_davis69 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens and it is part of life. When we are children learning we exerience this in different ways and children are learning right from wrong and most of the time don't know that it is wrong. But when there is an adult and a child involved they should burn in hell. It is hush hush b/c the experiences we participate in when children know right form worng and when we age and usually grow out of it. Sometimes it is kept hush hush b/c if authorities were involved it could ruin peoples lives when actually no harm was ment by it at all, when we are children and know no better. To expose the secret would be devistating for all and the whole family would know and this is something everyone would remember! But for the people who keep it hush hush from authorities when they shouldn't it is wrong and possibly others will be hurt and mistreated as well. There is a fine line to draw between children and adults! There is a fine line to draw when it comes to experiences and mistakes when learning right from worng. Hope this helped some!
2007-06-22 07:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The molestation of a younger person by an adult is one of the worst things imaginable. You must keep this in mind when asking the question about hush, hush. I mean, would the average female want everyone on earth to know that she was molested at an early age by an adult? By the same token, would that adult want everyone to know that he/she has committed one of the most deplorable acts known to man? I Once new a lady that (at the age of 30, I think) was afraid of commitment to a man as she was molested at an early age. This woman was finally married around 35 without telling her husband about it. It created real problems within her sex life to the husband. Not knowing about it, the husband recomended therapy where it all was brought out. The husband was a very good friend of mine at the time and was very distraught over the fact that his own wife found it hard to sleep with him. The husband was thinking that for some reason, it was all his fault. Thank Lord he was the very understanding type of man when it all came out in the open and remained with his wife. Today, they are one of the most loving couples that I know and are blessed with 2 of the greatest children on earth. It could have however gone the other way as I have heard of shallow minded men thinking that the woman was somehow damaged goods after learning such a thing. Still wander why things are kept hush, hush? My advice to ALL people molested at an early age would be to (without a doubt) tell somebody with authority and jail the low life that was responsible! I hope that this helps with your answer.
2007-06-22 07:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of great answers here. From 18 years practicing law in a lot of areas, I can tell you it is alot more common than most people want to admit, even in "good" families and to all types of people. The vast majority of the time the molester is someone trusted and in a position of authority over the victim. they use threats and promises and manipulation and guilt to get what they want and to prevent victims from telling. They are masters at finding kids with problems and taking advantage of the weakest moments. Serial molesters will spend months or even years grooming the victim, so that when it finally happens it seem less terrible. Often the victim feels guilty and ashamed and responsible, so they do not tell. Sometimes even if they do, the family does not believe them. I have seen mothers believe the molesters over their own kids, even in some very terrible cases. I have also seen kids who were abused for years beg to be allowed to go back the the abuser. The most tragic part is that this can mess someone up for years and even make them more likely to do it to someone else. For all of you who think you do not know someone who this happened to, you are wrong, they just have not chosen to tell you.
2007-06-22 09:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by buffsblg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think nobody who knows should stay quiet about it, and should tell someone. some families stay hush hush because it is a crime, it does send someone to prison, and they deserve to be there. Molesting a child is disgusting, indecent, and can cause that child to grow up and be sexually backward or overly out about sex -- strippers, hookers, and the like. Many girls lose their viginity at a young age because they feel like its nothing special. I dont know of the odds, but yes i do know of ppl it has happened to, and ppl that have gone to prison for it. If you know of a child being molested, u have to report it. For the safety of the child.
2007-06-22 07:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Always Right 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was molested once by a family friend.
My x step sister in law was molested by her dad from age 9-15.
And one of my guy friends was molested by his one of his mothers boyfriends.
And I've met a few other woman who were molested in my 37 years.
People are embarrassed by the fact that it has happened. Whether it be it happened to them or they feel guilty that they let it happen to their child. But the good thing is there is more awareness now than there was when I was a kid. Children are taught that its wrong and its ok to tell someone.
2007-06-22 07:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, many times the abused child does not speak out due to feelings of abandonment and shame even though they are not at fault. I am unclear as to why the family would choose to remain silent when it happens. Maybe they don't want to put more stress on the child or maybe they are selfish and don't want to their families to be scrutinized because of "one bad seed". I never told and to this day the man looks at me and acts as if everything is right with the world.
2007-06-22 07:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by MeMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its more common then most think. hush hush comes from embarrasment. And the kids have usually been threatened in some way i.e. kill the dog, mother
2007-06-22 07:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by redsky_too_nite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever the level of molestation you are speaking, individuals & family think it is private and always ashamed & humiliated. These individuals need to realize it is not their fault and their all others going thru the same.
Sometimes it is kept quiet due to upcoming court regarding this & can't be publically discussed until finalized. But support for all is still necessary.
2007-06-22 07:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by Carole Q 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am not sure how often it happens. I think more families are more open to each other about being nude or playing then alot of people know. The reason they dont want it out is because it is a bad situation and it can usually be over looked and taken care of.
2007-06-22 07:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by humble servant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋