Why do I hate people? Because they don't care?

Question

I mostly hate myself... a recovering suicidal adolescent.

And people around me aren't supporting me emotionally.

I know they need support, too.

But I don't have a damn friend in real life.

I don't even want to make online friends because they cant be trusted.

I stare at a square screen, listen to people singing on the stereo, people who don't even care about me. And to think that they're singing for people like me while they go drink their asses drunk.

So can you answer my question?

p.s.: didn't mean to rant

Answer 1

Well it's hard to find a good friend period.

You know, I don't think you hate people, you just hate the way people behave and they way they make you feel. So , let's try to be more positive.

It's hard for me to make friends too but when you have that time to spend on yourself use it wisely and try to find out the things that really matter to you. Like:

Try to find things that make you feel better about yourself
If you feel good about yourself it will be easier to accept others .

I hope you can find good friends.

Answer 2

Until you begin to feel any self worth you will continue to feel at odds with the world. I had a real bad time about ten years ago after my dad died and the breakdown with the relationship with my (late) mother. I went into counselling and found that I had so much baggage, it took me four years to unravel the emotional knots inside my head.

It has only been recently where I have gained self worth, self confidence and self respect, when that happens you will notice such a difference, it almost like godly intervention, my relationships are always improving, instead of degrading. Learn to trust yourself and your judgements, we are not perfect so be prepared to make mistakes, but also be prepared to forgive yourself.

Counselling is the best thing that happened to me, DO NOT mistake this for psychotherapy or psychiatry its not. It allows you to explore your options in your own time at your own pace.
My counsellor was an Oxford English graduate whose supervisor was none other than Tolkien- the author of Lord of the Rings, Hobbit, ect, ect.

I dont htink that you truly hate people, you probably have a sense of over awareness which mean you pick up on peoples idiosynchrasies, I could pick holes in all my friends if I wanted to, but I dont because its the very thing that makes them different that makes them people whomst I have time for.

Consider it.

: )

Answer 3

Get the music off, first----most music is "dependency songs" and will put you quickly into a bad, self-pitying mood.

There are VERY few friends in life---and most of the real ones you end up moving away from, or growing out of, or forgetting.
There are LOTS of emotions in adolescence that you must service---your needs, that must come first. People that have passed through this stage forget what real creeps they were, but you are stuck. It's not the best age to be, but salvage what you can out of it.
There are a lot of FANTASTIC days you will have as a teen, that will make fragile, wonderful memories. They are especially fragile because you, and the teens you know, are so very AUTHENTIC now, so un-harmed by the treadmill and misery of later life. But those moments, when everything is so wonderfully clear, and your dreams are so sharp, should not be missed. Now, you see life very clearly---as the years go on, it will be more under your control, but not as LIVING as it is right now.

Answer 4

Hey there, I don't know who you are or what your history is full of ! But I assure you that I have been thru the same phase (well, almost ... or probably it was of a much higher extent)! I was totally broken down. People whom I supposed as FRIENDS were the ones who DITCHED me the hardest way. I broke down totally. Lots of suicidal attempts, lots of depressions ... ! Life was like ... HELL ! But then I got up. I gathered the remaining scattered power & created my own IDENTITY ! My own PERSONA ! It was damn hard but now I am proud that I did it.
Dear, if Life has been very harsh to you, try to respect Nature that it chose YOU! If u don't feel like trusting someone - then DONT. Be your own best friend. Life's full of crappy stuff. Don't wait for friends to arrive - they wont until u have formed an appealing form of yourself. No one will trust you until you WANT to trust yourself. & for Pete's sake, don't grab on to those musical maladies ... - I assure you, they are of ZERO healing power. Get up .. Nature trusts you .. otherwise it wouldnt have put you up on this earth !

Cheers .. & NO MORE CRIBBING !
Love,
Rohit.

Answer 5

Wow. Sweetie,
Im sorry if you don't fell anyone is there for you. Are you currently in therapy for your past suicidal tendencies? If you are not now, you may need some medication to help stabilize your Mood. I have been thru it & I am happy to say I am off of my Meds and in a much better place.
I know you said you don't trust anyone but you can email me if you want to talk. I wasn't suicidal but I was severly depressed at one time.
hit me up!

Answer 6

No, my dear, you don't hate anybody nethier yourself. It's only that you're passing through a hard time in your internal world, questioning many things and discovering many others. It's normal. Almost everybody has passed through this stage. Sooner or later, things will appear clear to you, as one day it seemed so clear to me. Then a beautiful butterfly will fly through the blue sky. Believe me, it will.

Answer 7

well, first of all u have to be positive.at least a little . that will keep u going . making friends can be tough sometimes but it also depends on what type of friends ur looking for. hear happy music , go outside , talk to ur parents . but let me add that death is never and i mean never the answer to problems.

Answer 8

girl don't get depress for that, I use to complain about it when I was in my hometown , over there people would be hate full and mean , now I realize that people is hate full here or there.

what you can do it's stop paying them attention, and give less credit to what ever they say, do or mean.

don give a peanut about it, just try to find some friends that share your interests. and they would give taste to your world but don't ever kill your self (I hope what you said was just a joke)

Answer 9

I think not liking people is a self preservation thing. I would suggest counseling and getting involved in a local church. Slowly make friends and get involved in special activities.

Answer 10

There are people out there that care about you that you don't even know, and possibly never will. If you don't stick around for tomorrow, you will never know how great a day it could have been. People care - you just need to find the right ones. :)