er, but im not ready for a baby just yet. I love her trmendously, but would rather give it time and air.
2007-06-22 05:05:55 · 16 answers · asked by galen_2002 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I was married to my ex for 2 years and I'm VERY glad we never had kids. He wasn't the man I thought he was, as it would turn out... So NEVER rush into having kids because if something should come between you and the mom, the kids will suffer for it even though they didn't choose their parents.
Ask your gf this... Who's going to pay the bills? Provide food? Buy diapers? Who's going to sit up with the kid when it's sick or fussy? Who's on diaper duty? How does she feel about baby barf as a fashion accessery? Where will you live? Does she plan on having this baby abroad while she's gone? What about her job? (The list goes on and on...)
Tell your gf NO and make sure you always use protection during sex. Just because she says she's on the pill/patch/etc. doesn't mean she is. You haven't been together long enough to decide on babies yet.
2007-06-22 05:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by serena_dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's really just feeling afraid and unsure about leaving for such a long time....so she's grasping at something that will make her feel she won't lose you. She wants to maintain a tie with you - a baby would certainly do that, although I think if she really examined her feelings, she would find that's not what she wants.
Establish something or some way that will ensure you can maintain contact as she is away....whether it's IM through your computer or whatever - so she feels the security in knowing you don't plan on letting go of her. Make sure she knows how much you love her - tell her more often or show her in little ways. You may assume she knows, but now she needs something more concrete. Talk about or plan something special upon her return....it will give you something to look forward to.
Good luck to you.
2007-06-22 12:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by lizzie6961 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. You love her and are not prepared to make that leap yet, but when you are, you want if to be with her (if you do).
A baby is a LONG term commitment. For at the least, 18 years. You need to be sure you know each other well enough and are both prepared for a baby.
2007-06-22 12:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by mommy of an angel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready for a baby, then don't try to have one. Plus, you are in a fairly new relationship, I wouldn't plan on having a baby until you know someone really well. Good luck and I hope everything works out!!!
2007-06-22 12:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 months just isn't long enough to make such life changing decisions. You are wise to want to wait. So don't have unprotected sex. It is possible she would lie about taking the pill. And why would she want to have health care and a baby in another country without you, or her family, around? I repeat, Your are wise to wait! I would be very suspicious of her motives.
2007-06-22 12:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by lollipop 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into having a baby - wait at least 4 years to really get to know someone.
2007-06-22 12:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are right and tell her that haveing a child is easy but raising it ,needs skills.baby needs both parents and needs to have a relaxing and comforting place to grow up.
five months is nothing to know each other.dont rush and dont be fooled.atleast two years is needed to know each other and now you can enjoy your time together.
once the baby is here,you have to say bye to many things.
dont do it its a big mistake.
marry her and then have a baby.you dont want your baby to have one parent by her/his side,right?
you have to live under one roof to know each other.
2007-06-22 12:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you've only been together for 5 months. thats not long enough to know if you love each other and want to have a baby together
2007-06-22 12:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to have a baby with someone you are not married to? is she going to take your child and run? anyone can make a baby, be smart...raising children is a serious commitment and the best case scenerio is for them to have a committed mother and father....
2007-06-22 12:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by mago 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ya'll only been together for 5 months!! and she wants a baby!! i think it's best if you tell her to wait a while, cause a baby is not easy AT ALL
Your g/f should respect your decision and not rush things
2007-06-22 12:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by kittie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋