My husband only has limited vacation and his parents want to travel with us to a spot that I've already been to and don't want to return. This trip will be expensive and my in-laws will require hand holding in this country as they don't speak the language and will be dependant us. I really don't want to go. Am I being selfish by feeling imposed on? I've already suggested that we go somewhere else where I haven't been to and they knows that my husband has limited vacation time. My husband and his parents insist on this vacation together. My husband works long hours and we rarely get to see each other so I would a) prefer to travel alone or b) at least go somewhere new where I am interested.
2007-06-22 04:43:23 · 10 answers · asked by Pretty Girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make the best of it. I wouldn't make your husband choose between you and his parents. This trip is an opportunity for him that does not come around often. I understand why you are bummed...I would be too. But hey, it's a great bargaining chip for you if there is something else you want, LOL!
Good luck! :)
2007-06-22 04:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by answergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His parents won't be around forever, try to enjoy (or at least let him enjoy)what time is left. Also tell him that you would like to plan at least one day and evening ALONE with him, line up something for the in-laws to do since you know the area, and let them know in advance that you "would like to be selfish" for a day/night during the vacation..you can also hint/joke that it may be the perfect time to work on a grandchild!
Try and make the best of the situation, if it was reversed you would want him to be supportive.
2007-06-22 05:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by kat k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not selfish for feeling the way you do. Perhaps you can go on this vacation with them, then let your husband know that next time, you'd prefer doing something else...like a rain check. He might be more understanding if he knows you simply want to spend time alone with him...because you love and miss him so much.
2007-06-22 04:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Concerned Parent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for not wanting to go somewhere that you have already been, but I would say go and have fun. Perhaps it will bring you closer to your in laws and husband to show that you care about him and his family that much. He may not have many more vacations to spend with them. You two can perhaps get a way for a night or weekend later on.
2007-06-22 04:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband how you feel. if he doesn't know that you are not interesting in going to this place he won't be able to help you change it.. maybe he wants to spend time with his parents, which is fine, but he also needs to keep you happy as well. it's not fair that they are taking advantage of you because you have been to this place before- they can get a tour guide if they want to go there sometime...
2007-06-22 04:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you can persuade your husband otherwise, it looks like he's set on this vacation. Make the best of it and give them a nice tour.
2007-06-22 04:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down. It's your time and money as well. If the in-laws must go, you want to go somewhere new or you aren't going and they can have fun by themselves.
2007-06-22 04:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry- his parents won't live forever, so you won't have the burden of this vacation for long. Do whatever is best for the family.
2007-06-22 04:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them all how you feel. They can go someplace else where none of you have been before.
2007-06-22 04:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not being selfish at all - they had their time with their son now its your turn!
2007-06-22 04:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋