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My fiance and I are getting married this October. We have been together for 3 years now and we're talked a LOT about having a big family. We both come from Christian families with different opinions on lots of things..including sex before marriage. As 2 adults (21 & 29) we know that overall what decesions we make is our own and nobodys else. We were messing around the other night and I got to thinking what if we were to get pregnant before October? We're not trying, & we're not having unprotected sex..but what if? Would it be a bad thing? What about all th opinions of everyone around us? Just curious... thanks

2007-06-22 04:30:07 · 16 answers · asked by jeremiahs gal 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

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I come from a family with REALLY STRONG Chrisitan values. It is only wrong if you feel that it is wrong. I got pregant at 17 and my parents flipped! But they accepted my daughter as a gift from God. Children are gifts from God and if someone can't accept that then they obviously don't know what the meaning of A: Forgiveness B: that babies are God's promise of tomorrow. and really should read their Bible more... good luck Hun! do what you feel is right for you and your family.

2007-06-22 04:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsay 2 · 0 0

Enjoy your time together. The first year of marriage is always the hardest as it is. Wait it out till after your married I would even wait a few months after that. My husband and I dated 3 years before we were married and have been married for 2 and I come from a very strict family, but I can say I have enjoyed our married life extremely. Once you have the kids is when you start to have it a little rough, They are beautiful to have but wait it out the wedding is going to be stressful enough on you, you really dont want to be pregnant too with the side effects that come with it. But as for the opinions of other people, who cares. You have one another and if they are not willing to support your decisions then they are not concerned with your happiness. But to me no it would not be horrible I am just saying wait till the wedding and even some time after that unless that is the reason why you are marrying him. Good luck to you.

2007-06-22 04:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Clara1212 2 · 1 0

My personal beliefs do not follow the christian religion. I believe the bible has some good values, but is outdated. I believe the whole "you shouldnt have sex until your married" came from the fact that you got a better bride price for being a virgin at that time in history. So, for someone like me, I would think its wonderful. But since you follow the christian religion... maybe it wouldnt be good for you. And you are better off waiting, rather than feel any shame for being pregnant. Bringing a new life into this world should be something you are overjoyed with, not something that makes you feel bad.

2007-06-22 04:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by celticfairygoddess 2 · 1 0

it would only be a bad thing if you were not prepared for it. Are you ready to have a family right off, or do you want to enjoy just being just the two of you for a while? I know that if I had gotten pg before I married my husband it would have been fine, we dated for 7 yrs before we married so we had alot of alone time. But some people can't handle the pressure of a new marrage and a new baby all at once.

2007-06-22 04:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0 0

That is a completely personal decision. If you are planning on getting married in October I would wait. Society still views pregnancy before marriage a no-no. And if you both come from Christian families they will probably not be real happy about your decision. It doesn't matter, but really family does matter.

2007-06-22 04:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by PK211 6 · 1 0

I am 7.5 weeks pregnant and getting married in September. Both our families are very Christian but are still thrilled! They did voice their opinion just once for the record that this is not the way they would have done it but they are happy none the less. Do not live for your family...you are starting a new one with your fiance. Times are very VERY different now.

2007-06-22 04:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by Cash, Gage and Jax's Mom 4 · 0 0

at least you are planning for a future together, and are totally in love. Do wait until you are ready, though, as you are still young and think of all the fun that just the two of you can have without kids getting in the way? Have fun and be careful. Don't rush into anything for now. Good luck and God bless.

2007-06-22 04:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think its personal opinion between you and your fiance and no one else.
Personally my husband and I started trying to concieve 6 months before our planned wedding, but due to the stress of planning and organizing the wedding it didn't acutally happen until 2 months after the wedding (stress levels were down). The reason we wanted to start trying before the wedding b/c we didn't know how long it would take to get pregnant.

Good luck w/ your decision :)

2007-06-22 04:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs Karisa 2 · 0 0

I study organic Childbirth the Bradley way. It even includes the workouts you want to coach. I also study The Brewer clinical eating routine for usual and extreme-risk being pregnant. I accompanied the Brewer eating routine at the same time as i became pregnant. I used the Bradley technique with all 4 of my births. I also study Husband Coached Childbirth, yet that e book does no longer comprise what you want to coach to get waiting for beginning.

2016-10-18 23:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

well if you don't have unprotected sex and talk a bout getting pregnant before having sex you should be fine

2007-06-22 05:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by piper 1 · 0 0

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