I've been kind of feminine since a VERY early age, and I started paying a lot of attention to guys ever since I hit puberty. I date guys and I love them and enjoy their company. I've never had any sexual feelings toward a girl.
Also, I'm 16.
Because of this, I have people tell me that I'm too young to know that I'm gay.
Are they saying that I should stop dating just because I'm "too young" by their standards?
And why don't I ever hear people saying someone is too young to be straight?
2007-06-22 04:25:55 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Jackal- No tutus for me. I did play with dolls, though, but not Barbies. =) Peace.
2007-06-22 04:36:31 · update #1
Because they think that you'll 'grow out' of being gay. Stupid i know!
2007-06-22 04:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by Secret Cola Ninja 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
You're never too young to know. I think that people are born gay, and it's just a matter of when they figure it out. I discovered my bisexuality when I was 14, and I have never doubted it. Some teenagers go through a homosexual or bisexual phase during puberty because they are experiencing new hormonal changes, and sometimes they get confused about their sexuality, but that's not to say that this is the same for all teenagers, many do turn out to be gay. A lot of people don't figure it out until they're at university, but there's nothing wrong with working it out at a younger age. You raise a good point in that no one ever says someone is too young to be straight. I think it's a double standard because people often can't accept homosexuality, so they deny it instead. You have to go with your own intuition and feelings, not what anyone else tells you.
2007-06-22 11:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by Iggy 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Too young is not an issue.
It's cool that you are admitting and making peace with yourself.
When i was 16, I was obviously potentially gay, (with no sexual experience, just crushes on guys) and was harrassed, avoided, and bullied for it , so as a survival tactic, I tried to be straight for about 7 years, but I was mostly just celibate and sad and isolated.
Don't expect most straight people to understand you, but you'll find some that do. Don't listen to everybody; most are nuts anyway.
Just take care of yourself, play safe, don't obsess about one person or put another person on a pedestal above yourself, and stay open. Dont compromise your freedom in a relationship with someone unless he's REALLY nice to you and good for you, and don't try to rescue some weak little puppy guy who will use you and run just like they do to girls. Read a lot and be creative. If you want to butch up a bit, go to the gym and then nobody will mess with you.
2007-06-22 11:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by topink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're definitely not too young to know at that age. Most recognize what and who they're attracted to by the time they're 12 or 13, if they know what to look for and are not in denial. I know, looking back, that there were plenty of clues for me by then- unfortunately, there was a lot more homophobia in schools just 20 years ago, and there was no acknowledgement that other sexualities even existed in Sex Ed classes, let alone on TV, and there was no Internet, so I chose not to recognize it for what it was until much later. Not realizing and accepting it until later in life doesn't make a person any less gay. Be proud and open about who you are- and don't try to change it for the sake of others!
2007-06-22 11:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by kena2mi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just can't accept that being gay is real and not an arbitrary choice. Saying that you're too young to know will just give way to some other argument as you get older.
I'm happy that you're so comfortable being who you are. Good for you! I wish that I could have dated other guys when I was your age instead of trying to fit the image. Cheers!
2007-06-22 12:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Straight" people who either have strong bisexual tendencies or a poor memory assume that the sexual orientation of a 16 years old would be unfocused and ambiguous, by 16 you are well past the age at which puberty begins and probably had some sexual feelings before that so yes, a fully monosexual person would be well aware of whether or not they are gay or straight before they are 16 years old.
2007-06-22 13:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by geramd4040 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't too young to know you're gay. You aren't too young to date.
These people who tell you these things may be in denial about your sexuality. And they may really think you are too young to date, whether it's boys or girls, though that's kind of old-fashioned.
You are at an age where sex is a major and mysterious force in life, for many people (I know, because it was for me, and I didn't handle it well). Homones and emotions swirl up and down and all around.
Be careful and protective of your heart, and enjoy your romances!
2007-06-22 11:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by silverin.unwritten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not to young. If that is the way you feel, and you are happy dont let anyone else tell you how to be. My father is gay, and back-in-the-day espicially in Oregon it was VERY unaccepted. He lived his life fake, got married to a woman and tried to " not be gay" well after 11 years of marriage and being miserable he finally came out. And was FINALLY happy. He knew he was gay since he was 14. People just dont decide to be gay, they are born that way, and there is nothing wrong with being gay. Do what makes you happy and dont deny who you really are.
2007-06-22 11:37:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay look, when people say your "too young to know", they mean that your body is still going through physical and emotional changes and this is a "phase". They still think you aren't grown up and can still become straight and this will blow over you.
~By the way I'm not gay and I read this in a book called Absolutley Positivly Not Gay by David Larochelle
2007-06-22 11:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by veron 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Part of it is a belief that no one is actually gay (which is bologna) and the other part is a belief that teenagers never know what they want. This is part of my own struggle. I have to tell my parents somehow that I'm Jewish and not Christian, like them. It's a similar thing. If they don't like it, they'll say you're too young to know.
2007-06-22 11:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by Julia S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do hear people saying someone is too young to be straight ALL
THE TIME - just by different words: You're too young to date.
Certainly the concept of "You're too young to be gay" is silly, but it
has a corresponding concept which is not: Many teens spend a large
number of years fighting with their sexuality before coming to the
conclusion that they are whatever they are.
I would not make light of that pain.
However, if you know, that's great and all power to you.
2007-06-22 11:29:10 · answer #11 · answered by Elana 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋