2007-06-22 03:51:37 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes.
Why stay in a relationship that makes you miserable? Especially if you cannot forget the cheating.
2007-06-22 03:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without more information, this is hard to answer, so I will do my best.
If you guys are early into this marriage and she has already cheated, then the best thing is for you to move on. Count your lucky stars that there are no children involved.
If you guys have been together for a long time, then there are additional questions. Do you know this is the only time she has done so? Is she blaming your relationship for her cheating? Are there other circumstances? Was this a one night stand or something that has been going on?
If she cheated with someone that she cares about, then the two of you need to talk to see if there is a reason to stay together. Get a marriage counselor involved. If you love her, if she loves you, then try to work this out. If she has feelings for this other guy enough to cheat on her marriage vows, then there may be no other answer.
Sorry for your pain and hope everything turns out.
2007-06-22 04:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by Scrapper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having a hard time dealing then maybe you should move on. If you think about it then she cheated on you for a reason. It is a reason that you probably don't know of. It could have been sexual tension, boredom, curiosity,etc.. Either way she was in the wrong for doing it. She should tell you why she cheated on you in the first place. Only if you want her to explain herself to see if you can still be together, then only ask that question. Be prepared for it though because the truth hurts and you have to be ready to deal with that. I can't tell you if you should move on but if you have any doubts in your mind then you should. If she can't tell you why then it's a sign that she'll do it again. No one deserves to be cheated on. It is one of the cruelest things a person could do to another person.
2007-06-22 06:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by tazzyp01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on all circumstances. marriages always get complicating did she cheat on you for a reason like you weren't satisyfing her needs you werent paying enough attention to her or doing what she wanted. Was she really drunk and made a bad choice, listen to her reasoning. Honestly i just got out of highscool and i've seen about 100 different relationships come and go and there is a lot of cheating going on.. obviously marriage is a 1000 times more serious but usually u can let the first one by if it didn't mean much any of one then that's more than just a mistake...Divorces suck all my friends parents have been gettin them my aunt just got one i'd aim for staying together
2007-06-22 03:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As they say, Relationships are based on trust. If you can't forgive, I really don't think you feel like you can trust her. I find it hard to believe that anyone could be truely happy in that type of relationship. Children would only make the situation worse. It would be a very hard thing to do, but divorce may be the best out come. How long ago did this happen? Have you actually given yourself time to forgive?
2007-06-22 05:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by SusieQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't get over it...yes. It will do no good throwing it in her face everytime you feel like it, and it will only lead to more resentment between the both of you.
Love is a two way street...love, hate. The thing is...forgiving/forgetting. If you love her enough to forgive and forget. I have learned one thing in life, you have to be COMFORTABLE with the person you are with! Once the comfort is lost, the love is lost.
The old adage once a cheat, always a cheat, I don't believe, I believe people can change, but you have to be able to talk to each other and have that comfort to delve into each others feelings.
There are lots of fish in the sea, and just because you are connected with one, doesn't mean you can't be connected to someone who wouldn't cheat on you, even though it sucks to start over again...talk, listen both ways.
She needs to be just as open as you and you BOTH need to deal with why it happened.
Good Luck.
2007-06-22 04:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some are missing the point of what you are saying. You are saying should you even bother getting divorced and just leave each other. Divorcing is better for you. It will allow you to go on with your life. In other words get out from under the hurt.
2007-06-22 03:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get a divorce if this was something I absolutley couldn't let go. No sense in waking up every morning feeling like you don't trust the person you've promised to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-06-26 03:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by dorwin29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the greatness of cheating . You should have given more details in order to give an appropriate answer. Anyway think about the pros and cons and act accordingly. Don't be hasty and later on you may have to repent. Do you love her enough to forgive her and does she love you enough to stay honest later on?
2007-06-22 03:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Yes.
2007-06-22 03:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋