Is it best to tell your significant other that you have cheated?

Question

Is it true that it only helps the cheater when you tell your spouse you've cheated. It hurts the hell out of them but your conscience is clear i dunno what do u think

Answer 1

This could go either way. But think of it this way, if you were cheated on by your love, would you like to know. If your answer to this is yes, then you should definitly confront him. Personally, I wouldnt be able to cheat without telling him. I have a terrible guilt problem, and I would need to get it out of me. Its also not fair to the other person at all, and it should be brought to the person, no matter how much pain you both may endure. No relationship is a healthy one that can strive if there is a huge secret being kept. Good luck!

Answer 2

It is best of course if you never cheated at all, then there would be nothing to confess. However if you were the cheater, and you feel you simply must spill your guts to a S/O about the affair, be prepared for the consequences. It isn't just hurt. It's a sudden lack of not really knowing what was going on, a feeling stupid and used and betrayed thing. And it could also be the end of your relationship, because some people can never get over the betrayal of trust.

Answer 3

I think you're crazy to tell your partner that you've cheated! It's the last thing that you want to do in a relationship. It's best to just forget about it, rather to break the heart of another. Drop it and pretend it never happened. Then your conscience is clear, and you still have a relationship.

Answer 4

Yes. Period. In a situation like that the truth is always the best. Number one, yes it will clear your conscience and allow you to move on in the relationship. Secondly, these things tend to have a way of coming to your spouse's attention anyway. How do you think he/she will feel if they find out from someone else that you cheated on them? A hell of a lot less forgiving.

Answer 5

Well... i ain't a very big fan of cheaters, but u could tell her and maybe just give him/her some space 4 a while, when they calm down, u could tell him/her why u cheated, but u ur self have to sit yourself down and think hard about why u cheated on ur spouse. REMEMBER THIS IS A OPTION OF A 13 YEAR OLD- who don't understand this kinda ****

Answer 6

If you were weak and cheated , the burden should remain with YOU . Don't try to whitewash yourself by blabbering in order to ease you own consciouns . Always take full responsibility for your actions no matter what .
Telling your significant other about your sin is a complete cop-out . It serves no purpose except to make them feel pain .
Come to grips with yourself . God knows what you have done and since it bothers you now I suggest you bend your knee and ask Him to forgive you . Promise never to cheat again and let it be a lesson learned .

Answer 7

it is best to tell. it is that way because even though it hurts them if you are truly sorry it will show that you want to be truthful with them. and its also alot less hurtfull then them catching you or finding out from someone else. but if you go to them all like i cheated on you and i would do it again that would just be stupid. but either way if you want out of the realtionship or want to stay in it the best thing to do is tell so you both can move on and make the next part of your life better.

Answer 8

Absolutely--honesty is the best policy. Also, a spouse who has an affair is selfish, but to not tell their spouse is even more selfish and down right mean.

Telling the spouse not only relieve guilt, it gives the spouse/partner a chance to decide if they want to keep the relationship or throw it away.

Answer 9

I think it depends on many factors. Why are you confessing? To ease your conscience maybe ? You have to ask yourself would your partner forgive you and if not are you prepared to lose them and is it sometimes better not to know as what they do not know wont hurt them ? If you cheated once and are truly sorry and know you wont do it again then i think you should stay quiet but if you think you may be tempted again then i think you should confess and stay single until you are ready for real commitment.

Answer 10

You should tell them. If you are sorry and wish you hadn't make sure you include that, too. If you want your relationship to continue and won't ever cheat again, be sure to express that. Be very honest. It may keep the relationship from continuing, but it's bound to come out sometime and you should do it now before it's been too long.