What does all the heartless criticism and speculation surrounding the Mccanns actually achieve?

Question

They left their child while they went to eat in an environment they wrongly percieved to be safe.

The child was abducted.

Facts.

How is coming on here or other places and throwing around these wild speculations and baseless accusations going to help delete those actions?

We cannot go back in time.

The Mccanns can't press a rewind button and undo their actions..

They are going through the biggest and most heart breaking ordeal that anyone could go through in life.

We cannot even come close to imagining it.

Their pain must be almost unbearable.

Can you not see how hurtful and spiteful and ultimately USELESS your rants about them are?

Dave S

Give me all the direct questions you want and I will answer them on this thread if you want.

Thanks.

EDIT: Abluebobcat - Do you believe the two women currently sitting in jail in the US for being in a bar while their unattended children died in a fire, should be released and have their freedom as the McCanns do. If so, why?
Yes, because they left their children at home and went a MILE away. The Mccanns did not leave the resort and were checking on the child during the evening. My full and more detailed responses were highlighted in my previous answer to your question this morning.

Do you believe the McCanns were negligent in the eyes of the law when it came to their children. If you do, what would be a suitable punishment in your eyes?
The law is tricky on this one. It all depends on the environment, length of time the children were left alone, mitigating circumstances. Personally, I believe that if it were taken to courts the case would be thrown out. I believe that a punishment would be unsuitable in this case as they were not deliberately negligent. Going down the local booze

boozer a mile away for a few beers is far more worse then popping out 50 yards away for a bite to eat. To me it is like going outside in your garden

No, but there are any number of complete strangers wondering around the roads and dark alleys near my house who could easily break or sneak in.

Gill79 - You still haven't answered my question about what all the crticism will achieve. I am sure they are aware of all this. How is it going to bring the child back?

No, If you go through all of my questions since I joined here over six months ago you will see that nearly all of them are jovial and lighthearted in nature, even silly. This case and peoples reactions to it has just touched a nerve.

Answer 1

It will achieve nothing except making several small minded people feel righteous.

I can't believe that anyone thinks that all the pathetic ranting will influence anything to do with the McCanns. Oh yes I really believe the obsessive drivel spouted by all the McCann bashers will make the police sit up and decide to prosecute the McCanns or cause Leicestershire Social Services to investigate. No doubt they'll be poring over Dave S's posts in particular to build the prosecution case. Not!

It's sickening though I'm heartened whenever I read a question like yours that reassures me that the whole of Yahoo! Answer hasn't gone mad after all.

Answer 2

The critisicm is about people venting their frustration and thats fine. Some of the comments are constructive, some are correct. But i suspect even some ' anti mc canns' wince at a lot of the comments. They have become increasingly personal and have little to do with the missing child. The arguement of the parents having gone for dinner while the children slept, while of course it is a valid point, is raised repetivitly and so often used as an answer to every question. And it is used as an excuse to tear away at the parents every action and comment. The mind boggles as to why this happens to parents whose child could be dead of suffering a terrible fate.

What I dont get most of all is that the abductor is never mentioned, never blamed, never lambased, never critiscised..... what is that about?? Instead it is ensinuated that the McCanns would rather holiday than get Maddie back,. So they are the hate figures.... not the person who took the child. That i do not get......

Answer 3

I think a lot of the anger isn't directed at the McCann's per se but more at the extreme media hype surrounding this event - the way it has been handled is quite frankly absurd.

Every tiny detail 'leaked' to the press is turned into a massive drama and splashed across tabloids as though this is going to change things.

This type of occurrence, sadly, happens all too often -why turn this example into a frenzy?

Perhaps some good will come of this - people will be educated and the same mistake will not happen again. The sad thing is that all this media attention makes it more likely that the child be killed rather than sold on or moved as she is so recognisable.

Answer 4

You are correct to say you cannot undone that which has been done. However justice for Maddy and all future Maddies will not be done by saying `we feel your pain` now go home and put your feet up. they are well educated people, they should have known beeter. God, it isn`t rocket science. I am a bus enthusiast, i take photos of buses, however i don`t do it near schools and most certainly not when the schools are going in or out. Why? Because I know that parents would be upset to think someone is taking photos os their kids. It is simple common sense. Anyway back to the point in hand. So 6 months or a year down the line some other parent thinks ` lets nip out for a pint and a bite to eat tonight` `Babysitter?` `Nah, we don`t need one of them, the Mc Canns lost their kid and no one ever got charged`. That is why they need to be vilified, to act as a deterent to other irresponsible parents.

Answer 5

We MUST explore every alternative when solving a crime. Often, the least expected person is the criminal.

We cannot blindly assume that what the McCanns re telling us is true. Good detective work considers ALL options, no matter how far-fetched they initially sound. They were the last people to see Madeline alive (assuming she's died) so they MUST be examined carefully.

Most of the other rants are about whether or not they should have left her alone. Well, in Europe it is totally normal to do what they did. Cultural differences account for the complaints there.

Answer 6

You are entirely missing the point. The parents MUST be prosecuted as this will send a clear message to other lazy, selfish parents that this is totally unacceptable behaviour. Maybe that will have some influence in saving a child from injury or death in future. We are obviously different in that I care more about children than parents who neglect their primary parental responsibility for the sake of a few drinks.

FACT: They put their own selfish interests before the BASIC safety of their children. How can anyone defend that?! It is totally and utterly beyond me.

I DON'T CARE if they are upset by these comments, they need to come out and admit they were wrong to do what they did if they want any sympathy from me whatsoever. Disgraceful people.

Answer 7

I agree with you that the heartless and spiteful criticism is unjust and your right abut the fact that they cannot take back their actions, the problem i have and i do not mean this callously but they have received so much media attention which is only right in the help to locate their missing child, but what about all of the other children that are abducted throughout the world every day where is their media coverage and why are people not trying as desperately to locate them i can see why other countries hate the brits when this is the case!!!

Answer 8

can you not see how hurt Madeleine is/was because of her useless parents?

i don't know whether you are a parent or not, im assuming not - for the record i am.

i have never left my daughter unattended while i dined out with friends at home abroad single parent or with my partner - and if i make mistakes i take responsibility. cos that my job as a parent, and a valuable lesson to teach your kids.

what most are struggling with is the fact they absolve themselves of any responsibility - it was not there fault but the 'abductor' is only half to blame. if the McCanns kept their children with them then would it off happened - most probably not.

the 'abductor' made a good choice in that apartment because if they hadn't been left alone before that night and the abductor hadn't been watching, how did that person know they where alone.

the thing is there are two many unanswered questions that are being avoided by the press and the McCanns are avoiding talking about that night as we do not know the full facts, only half truths. if they did talk truthfully, honestly and admit their responsibility in this then it would move on on here eventually. it is stuck in a rut because they only want us to know certain points - that they hope paints them in a positive light.

to be blunt - nothing about this fits which is why only blinkered feel sorry for them.

Answer 9

I dont think we are trying to be spiteful, but are merely using this as a chance to vent our rage and anger about the whole situationa nd the all media hype around the parents, instead of focusing on that little girl.

Everyone i know sympathises but cant help thinking that this could easily have been avoided or prevented if they had just taken a minute to think `is it really safe to leave my 2 and 3 year old children alone`

There are lots of other things that could have happened to those children just by them leaving them alone, unfortunately one of the worst things imaginable happened.

Did they consider for 1 second what coudl happen. they might wake up from a nightmare and be distressed that their parents are not their, there could have been a fire, one of the could have slept walked out onto the road infront of traffic.

Answer 10

One is beginning to wonder if you are in point of fact related to the McCanns.

Regardless it is extremely clear that you would see no problem in going to a strange country and leaving your children alone in an unlocked room while you go out for the night. There is no point in keeping saying it's a mistake, it was a deliberate and selfish act that was committed night after night. No one is saying that they are not feeling guilty about it. They are saying that Kate and Gerry are behaving in a very strange manner. People have the right to rant on here because they cannot tell Kate and Gerry what they think of them face to face. However the comments on committing violence against them is disgusting to say the least. But then there are disgusting comments from both sides of the argument.

I suggest that you have a big problem allowing others to voice their opinion. Do you feel you are unheard in your everyday life perhaps?

Chris S you have some good points here is another

The NSPCC's definition of neglect which is a definition of child abuse is;

Failure to provide a child's basic needs (eg food, warm clothing); leaving children alone or unsupervised; failure to give love or affection.

I'd like to see ablubobcat justify their actions now! but since he seems not to have a valid argument other than 'you're being nasty' I will be waiting on an answer till kingdom comes.