Why should women be taken seriously when they blame hormones for all their bad behavior? You still have a brain and you can control your self. I don't accept this excuse, nor do I respect any woman that uses it.
2007-06-22 02:50:44 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Nobody, male or female, should be able to blame hormones for bad behavior. Now, occasionally hormones can lead to very emotional behavior in women. And if you're talking about PMS and the crankiness associated with it, women's hormones can play some pretty nasty physical tricks on them every month. The physical toll of severe cramps, lower back pain, sore breasts, bloating, and a heavy menstrual flow can lead to lack of sleep. These things would make anyone cranky and short-tempered. Women should learn to recognize these symptoms, though, and try their best to keep themselves under control.
2007-06-22 03:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never used hormones as an excuse until two months ago when I started the pill. Those things have messed with me so much- I honestly cannot control my behavior a great deal of the time. Evidently this is normal at the beginning, but it really sucks. I think some men are also driven to bad behavior when their body produces way too much testosterone.
Don't dismiss the power of hormones. They actually effect your brain, minimizing your ability to control yourself. Obviously, focusing can help to some degree, but there is a limit.
My boyfriend tells me that since I started the pills I actually have a different personality. Sometimes I am downright a b**** and don't even notice it. I am usually a sweet girl (at least to him, lol). It's supposed to go away after another month or two, so we are sticking with it. He's still nice to me, since if he starts complaining I have to go off the pill and then you-know-what has to come back on!
2007-06-22 12:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Emmie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend never plays that card, because it is not an excuse and it is also a fallacy for the most part.
For the most part human beings operate outside the realm of homonal control and have been for a long time. For example: a dog responding to its natural hormone driven instincts will "hump" anything. Men do not, we are able to think outside of our hormones.
Also PMS, is largely a hypochondrical syndrome. It is most common among women between late 20's through 40's. So teenagers are not likely to have to deal with real PMS. Often times the symptoms of a normal menstration are labeled as PMS because most girls dont know better. Also it is impossible to PMS while on a period. Im not sure how many times Ive heard a girl say that, but its not possible. Why? Because PMS comes before the period and ends at the start of menstration.
PMS is a hypochondical syndrome, that has been socialy created. I think therefore I am... There is a form that is very real called PMDD which is a legit medical diagnosis, in which case its symptoms are so severe it prevents the function of normal daily life.
I havent lived through it and Im sure its not fun. But I didnt argue that. I just wanted to throw it out there that PMS is mostly a self imposed condition, and when its real, it is nothing like what most of you girls have to deal with.
2007-06-22 14:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by kcbf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree that we women shouldn't use hormones as an excuse for "bad behavior" but try to understand what we go through each month. Just yesterday I had really horrible pms, I felt like I'd been through a tornado (physically), I couldn't control my emotions, and I kept crying when I was watching tv...this morning I woke up with killer cramps and a heavy flow. Excuse my crankiness, but when a guy doesn't feel good, is he a happy person or in a fabulous mood? Nope.
It's not an excuse.....try to understand.....and don't make the situation worse than it is...back off a little unless the woman wants attention and don't provoke her by saying things like, "you look really horrible" (it's happened to me).
2007-06-22 16:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by Holdin' on to Hope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not an excuse, it can be the reason though. Men have a type of period each month as well as women. There are some days where it just turns out to be bad and you may take it out on others. No it is not right for either gender, but the best way to deal with it is to not get really angry, just talk about it.
2007-06-22 15:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is this term "bad behavior" that gets thrown around indiscriminately on WS? What are you referring to exactly? Bad moods? Being cranky and not nice with our words? That can be due to premenstrual changes, and an apology because of that reason for those types of behavior should be understood because sometimes we don't even know we've been offensive.
Men often get off the hook for not speaking nicely all of the time because they are "right brained" and "don't have the language skills" that women do. Well maybe that too is a bunch of hogwash. If we women should stop and think about what we are saying so that we don't offend, perhaps you guys need to do so as well.
2007-06-22 10:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've never met a pregnant woman, I see. That's OK, come back in a few years after you've been married a while.
People are certainly in charge of their actions, but when your wife bursts into tears when you tell her you forgot to buy the ice cream, you'll be happy to understand why. You can either scream at her to get ahold of herself, or you can just offer her a kleenex and wait it out - and live. You can be a great husband, or you can complain that humans must always be logical and non-hormonal. It's up to you.
I've never used PMS as an excuse to mistreat people. From what I've seen, it's *men* who think that PMS is so terrible. But we don't lock the doors at night because we fear PMS-y women breaking in and assaulting us, do we? We lock the doors to avoid "hormonal" MEN.
2007-06-22 12:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by Junie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally accept the excuse, but not the way most women use it. If a woman has the self knowledge to know when her behavior is effected by her biology, I respect that. But, she'd also have to recognize that what she says during those times would be taken with a grain of salt. Most women can't handle what I've described.
2007-06-22 10:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
-I don't use hormones as an excuse for anything; don't care who uses it, male or female, it's not an excuse that I believe.
-What the heck is "behaving badly"?
-Based on your previous Q&A's, when have you taken women seriously? When have you respected a woman? That'd be news.
2007-06-22 16:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No hormones are not an excuse for bad behavior.
By try getting pregnant for nine-months, or try getting your period for 5-7 days every month... and then think of it again.
Just like hormones are not an excuse for cheating, it's not an excuse for bad behavior even in the cases I mentioned...
However, pregnancy and the period can make your day pretty nasty, and without even knowing it you'll be yelling at everyone...
What to do?
2007-06-22 09:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by Serendipity 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋