what will you do if your husband doesnt talk to you for a week, but eat your food and sleeps in the sofa?

Question

husband stops talking all of a sudden, he will eat the food i cook and drop me at work but won't talk to me.

Answer 1

get your own lift to work and stop cooking cleaning or doing anything for him
he is being ridiculous
and if he doesnt start then ask him to leave cause he is making the house a miserable place to live
tell him he can come home when he cheers up

Answer 2

Enjoy the silence! No seriously, he's got a problem and it might have nothing to do with you, but if he doesn't start talking soon, then kick him out. Anything else is just playing games. But if you want games, run up the credit card bill, he'll talk then, put itching powder on the sofa, spend hours talking to others on the 'phone, and go out to eat, he'll have to cook for himself then. In short, he is taking it out on you but hasn't had the decency to tell you why! Does he think you're a mind reader?

Answer 3

Hmmm.....I`ve got a sudden non-talker too, but he`s never gone for more than a couple of days and he doesn`t sleep on the sofa (wait ...we don`t have a sofa..)
What I usually find is that something has annoyed him (it often seems really minor to me) and so he just decides that he doesn`t want anything to do with me. It`s his way of punishing me.
I used to get really upset and demand that he talk to me and cry etc, wonder what I had done wrong(usually I couldn`t figure it out), now I just go about my business cheerfully and push him out of my mind (apart from thinking how ridiculous he looks).I do things that I enjoy and pamper myself a little.
I deal with the meal thing by making a meal and taking mine off elsewhere to eat it....and will say "there`s some........in the pot" over my shoulder. I hate silent meals so refuse to sit through one.
I find the more cheerful and unaffected by his nonsense I seem the earlier he comes out of his sulk (and then we can actually talk about it)


This sounds a bit more serious though. If he has moved to the couch and has refused to talk for week....then he really feels like he has been wronged. If you can`t think of anything serious that he would be mad about....then I do think you need to talk to him. Obviously he won`t join the conversation....but you need to say how you feel.

I would choose a time when he cannot go anywhere (maybe in the car on the way to work or just as you arrive)
Try and speak as calmly as possible and say something like "I am really confused why you stopped talking to me. I wish you would talk to me so I would know. I can`t live like this, it really upsets me. I really miss talking to you about things"
Then LEAVE! Don`t wait for an answer......let him stew on it...Don`t try and get a response and don`t bring it up again...
Be cheerful and unaffected.

This kind of approach has worked for me. He won`t respond at the time.....but it goes in and stews for a while and then he will talk to me.....and usually he is mad at me....but at least I know....and the silence is broken.

Answer 4

You didn't say what your relationship was like before he stopped talking. There could be a few things going on here. He could be depressed-how does he act to everyone else, has anything else in his behavior changed?
He could be unhappy with you for something you don't even know about. This could be a way of punishing you or trying to control you. He might be thinking that obviously you don't like this behavior from him, so you will not upset him again.
Or it could just be that he is stressed and emotionally drained, men get to that point also.
Best thing for you to do is ask him, and if doesn't answer ask him again, and again. He'll get so sick of you asking he'll give you something, he might yell it to you, but at least you will know.

Answer 5

Hey, you need to tell this man, what it is that is bothering you. Hey I couldn't live like that at all. Did you do something that you don't know about. Communication is the best tool here. Write him letter. Ask his family what is going on, or just leave a note to him about the way you both are acting. If he is sleeping away it probably a another person or not. Talk to him, and be honest.

Answer 6

Something must of happend, stop cooking for him and make another arrangement to get to work, he will after the first meal he miss get talking again or just keep on asking why he is not talking to you there must be a reason

Answer 7

Why are you still cooking him food? Because you need his lift to work every day? Something is going to have to give sooner or later isn't it. Tell him not to be such a sulky bugger and that you want to know what is wrong with him. I would probably throw his dinner over him if it was me.

Answer 8

Did u guys have a big fight or something? I would be worried if nothing happened btwn yall & he just stopped talking. Ask him about it & let him know that his behavior is childish & that if he has something to say then say it. That does not sound like a healthy relationship if he hasn't talked to u for a whole week...that's crazy.

Answer 9

hi ask him outright to talk to you if he still refuses then do not cook or clean for him, and if possible walk or get a lift from else where if this still doesn't prompt him. tell him to talk or leave, emotional abuse is just as harmful as physical,and nobody deserves it , he is behaving like a spoilt child by not talking to you how can you resolve any problems if he doesn't talk to you good luck thoughts will be with you xx

Answer 10

It doesn't work that way in my house. He wouldn't have food to eat or a sofa to sleep on.