I am 26 i have a four month old baby girl..the father was my best friend for over 7 years and he just abandoned us a week before she was born..I met a guy that i really like and he knows about my baby girl..my question is...
How many guys will get involved with a girl that has a baby by another guy and will you love htat baby as your owm if things got really serious??
Ladies do you have any experience or advice..???
I just want to make sure im not expecting to much of him and that im doing the right thing for kmy baby.
2007-06-22 02:21:24 · 14 answers · asked by Funi Buni 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok, let me see if I have this right..
You have been alone for 4 months.
You have a 4 month old baby girl.
My advice is that you need way more time alone with your little girl before you start dating. You have gone through one of the biggest changes of your life and decisions you make right now may not be the healthiest. You are still dealing with a long term relationship breaking down! and a new baby!
Slow down, little momma.
Eventually, when things have settled down.. it will be time to meet a good man who will embrace both you and your daughter. There are plenty of men who will love you both.. good men, kind men, loving men.
So, that's may advice.. good luck to you and your little baby.
2007-06-22 02:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is always a tough situation to face. I am sorry that your best friend just left you-he will regret this in the long run. The good news is you have opened you heart and your life to something new, a new man. Go into this with a good head and thinking of your baby's needs first. If he is a good man and to show that he will love your baby is by the way he acts with her, the way he acts with you. If he wants to take you out and doesn't want the baby to come along that is a bad sign and get out of that relationship immediately, i mean there are times you two can just go out but most men who turn out to be good fathers to another mans baby is wanting to be in that child's life always.
2007-06-22 09:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you love a person,you love the whole package,not just the wrapping.If he can handle it and is willing to take on your daughter as not only yours alone but "OURS".Then why not take a little bit of time and see how things go.Jealousy is an evil thing and some men can bring this up later to use as an emotional weapon.Play it by ear and you never know,this could be the best decision of your life.
2007-06-22 09:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by Mika K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard but I must say that your priority now should be your baby, not the guy. Ok that does not mean that you should not see any guy at all, you should, you must live your life but be careful about maintaing the distance between your boyfriend and your kid, And once you are sure of a guy who really likes your child, then go ahead, Every thing will be taken care of!
2007-06-22 09:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by frescocomolluvias 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guys point, it is VERY hard to do that. But! There's still a chance, guys have a hard time committing to that because of obvious reasons one being the fact that the baby is not theirs and if anything were to happen to the relationship, he doesn't have to worry about custody cuz it's not his kid, unless he adopts the baby. He has to really really love both of you.
2007-06-22 09:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by oplumey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mom and my boyfriend on 3 years left when he found out I was pregnant. Listen to your heart for it will never steer you wrong. First you need to do what is right for you. What is right for you will be right for your baby. being a single mom isn't so bad. I love it. As for your question for the guys I would like to know that too!!!!
2007-06-22 09:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im nearing the end of a court case, and my boyf is with me the whole way, in 2 months we will know if i get custody of my daughter, i am fighting my ex (my girls dad) and his mum (who has her at the moment). He has come with me for visits. i dont believe he will love her as much as his own future children at least not for a long time, you cant expect hat of them so soon, if you just keep it cool and dont get all heavy on this guy you'll probably be fine. he likes you, he accepts your child is part of the package, enjoy it you lucky thing
2007-06-22 09:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by blakorkid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another example of how sex kills friendship. There's no way we can predict the future for you. You'll have to figure this out as time passes and you get to know this guy better.
2007-06-22 09:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good man will love your little girl just as you would a child of his.
Sandy :O)
2007-06-22 09:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, you are entitled to child support. Are you receiving child support?
And what are your intentions with your new boyfriend? To live with him and share expenses? To marry him and raise a family together?
Be clear on your intentions and be certain of your legal rights. Your new boyfriend will probably welcome your previous child.
2007-06-22 09:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋