My baby has a horrible temper..?

Question

She throws her back up and scream bloody murder when I do anything with her that she doesn't want me to do. Like change her diaper or when I put her in her high chair to eat. She will calm down and eat after a few minutes. Or if she doesn't get her way she screams. She doesn't cry, she screams. She slaps me and others. She reminds me of a two year old. I didn't think such a young baby would act this way. I have a migrane daily because of this. Is this normal behavior of a ten month old?? I can't take her places anymore because she screams throught the whole store.. HELP!!!!

Sorry about the typos... I know babies scream but she throws very bad temper tantrums.

Answer 1

When babies cry they do it because they have no other way to express need, desire, want or frustration. In fact, babies cry for just about every reason under the sun and it's up to Mom to identify what those different cries signify. When the big one hits, however, keep in mind that it's not what you did that upset them, but how you handle his or her upset that will matter.

It's important to identify where tantrums come from so that you can formulate game plans to deal with them. The most common sources of tantrums are:

· Hunger · Frustration · Overtiredness · Fear · Anxiety · Lack of Communication · Change · Over stimulation · Boredom

While boredom may not seem a problem your baby would have, it's actually more common than a lot of moms realize. Babies enjoy stimulation and interaction. They learn by rote and by memorization. But when they've done the same thing over and over and over again, they too can get bored with it.

Some solutions for these problems as you deal with them include:

For Hunger - Provide a snack or light drink. If your baby is old enough to have water, try using water to supplement because hunger can often be a sign for dehydration.

For Frustration - Help them achieve whatever goal it is that is frustrating them or provide a distracting activity. If you remove the baby from the frustration and give them something to accomplish, you can curb the tantrum long before it starts.

For overtiredness - Try to settle the baby down for a nap with a quiet activity. This can include a mobile, soft music, rocking chair or even reading softly to them. While you may not approve of the television as a quiet activity, settling an older toddler into a chair with a favorite blanket and putting on a quiet show can work wonders, letting their mind decompress while their body relaxes and sleep is quickly forthcoming.

For fear and anxiety, cuddle the baby and reassure them. Remove them from whatever is making them afraid or anxious. Do not dismiss fear, it's easy to say that it's not something to be afraid of but babies do not have our experiences.

For Lack of Communication, get down on their level and try to understand what it is they want. The frustration a baby feels when they cannot communicate a need is overwhelming. Imagine how you feel when you are doing everything you can to explain a problem and the person on the other side is not getting it.

For Change, change is hard for everyone, but it can be especially hard for babies. You need to let them get used to the change and simply be patient with them. You can talk to them; keep your manner open and easy going. Make it a fun change for them as opposed to expecting them to just deal with it.

For over stimulation, baby is going to need quiet time. There's really no other better cure for over stimulation than letting them have some down time to process everything. If it's late in the day, give them a quiet place to relax and let their mind unwind. Our daughter used to babble to herself in her crib for up to thirty minutes before falling asleep. The quiet time helps them learn how to go to sleep on their own as well as process their day.

Finally, take a deep breath Mom. Babies cry. It's what they do. If you've done everything for them and they are dry, fed, warm and safe. It may be that they just need some time to cry and let it out. Make sure they are in a safe place like a crib or a playpen and step out of the room if you need to. Consider it a lesson in letting them vent. You may want to give them ten or fifteen minutes and try again to soothe, after they've had a chance to get it off their chest they may be ready for the company and the compassion

Answer 2

My son is fourteen months old and he screams constantly too. There was an incident when my husband and I ate in a mall and I strapped my son in the highchair, he screamed the whole time we were there, waiters gave us dirty looks, other people starred it was so embarrassing even when I tried to feed him bananas he still acted out. I left the mall crying because I was so humiliated by the way he had acted. Diaper changes are like World War three for me, it's hard to change his diaper he will kick and scream and reach for other things in the floor. I've given up the changing table because I'm afraid he will flip and fall off. During a diaper change I will try to be silly that helps him forget, like play this little piggy with his toes or something and as I play snap the velcro on he doesn't even notice I'm doing it, or put his shorts or pants on my head and he thinks that's great. When he slaps I will take his hand and firmly tell him no, I don't slap back or get rough he gets no well enough he won't do it again. I do not ever recommend putting a child in a highchair and if the child screams walk out of the room and leave the child to scream that's endangering the welfare of the child they can find a way to tip over the highchair if they want or even find a way eventually to unlock the straps, chances are she is trying to communicate something and can't that's very frustrating for an infant and extremely difficult for the parent believe me I know mine will sometimes just walk around the apartment screaming and I think my goodness what do the neighbors think. But it's so hard because I can tell something is bothering him and I can't help. So I just ignore his fits, sometimes I give him a hug and tell him I love him often he will calm down. Babies have a hard time controlling their emotions because they can't figure out how to tell you how they feel, and lots of times they can't figure out why they feel the way they do, they just feel bad. I can handle the crying better than the screaming and sometimes you just have to ignore the fit and go on, that is if you can't figure out what is wrong. Just make sure that if you see your child getting fussy try to figure out what is and stop it before it gets out of hand. Coming from a mom of a fourteen month old it does get easier.

Answer 3

OMG you just described my little red-head! My almost 10 month old does the same thing, actually just about 10 minutes ago I held her down while she screamed bloody murder just to change her out of her jammies. It's ridiculous! She screams if I don't give her something she likes for lunch, if I try to change her diaper, take something away that she can't have...I mean HUGE temper tantrums. I don't know what to do either! I tell her no, it's not like it does any good though. I'm hoping it's just a phase!

Answer 4

Well maybe she just doesn't like on the spot changes. Talk to her as you pick her up and bring her to whereever to keep her calm.

If that doesn't work you could try this but it will take some time to do.
Lets say she is sitting on the floor 50 feet away from her bed. Every 30 second to a minutes poick her up and move her 10 feet ( or a little bit closer to the bed, doesn't ahve to be excat) Keep doing this until she is there then hopefuly she won't be screaming becuase she was gradually put there and not put there in a rush.

Answer 5

When she hits you need to tell her no very sharply and firmly. Then say we dont hit thats not nice! As far as the screaming goes, that can be normal...my oldest son would throw fits everywhere all the time when he was a baby...its because they cannot communicate what they want and when somethings happening that they dont agree with they throw a tantrum...this behavior should subside eventually as your daughters vocabulary grows (my son is great now that he can talk and tell me whats bothering him)...just stay firm with your "NO's"....and whatever you do please do not leave her in the highchair...too many babies fall out of their highchairs and can get seriously hurt...if you need a break from her use her crib or playpen with nothing in it that could harm her.

Answer 6

If this were my baby I'd constantly be holding her and reassuring her. It is my experience that the more you try to make your kids independent, the more they cling. When you do the clinging, they try to become independent.
Be constantly talking to her, ask her questions with a smile. It's possible she may have a strong personality and bad temper but you want her to know you are her buddy.
When I see kids misbehaving and acting out in the supermarket or stores, the adult is usually miffed and grouchy and using expletives like 'siddown!', 'shut up!' and 'quit!'...
>sigh< Call me unusual but when I went out with my kids I'd let them hold a box of something with pictures on it as we strolled though or I'd say 'let's get this one, it smells good' or something that draws them into the action of the moment. I think we want our children to act like adults... I told my sister that recently talking about the puppy stage of their dog - 'he's 6 months old but you want him to act like an old dog'...

Answer 7

i went through the same when my daughter was 6 months old.shes now 2 and only started to calmer.shes fine with her dad but really plays up to me. she also hates people and i also have to avoid people,and public places.all i can tell you is give it time.phases come and go.i would take headach pills everyother day also.its the pits i know.i feel for you.

Answer 8

I believe you should give her a light tap but not something hard to show her who is the boss. The worst mistake most parents do is let the kids hit them when that shouldn't be happening, so hit the child on its butt a little.

Answer 9

Try this link it might help

http://www.babycenter.com/search/?BodyQuery=baby+scream&storesearch=0&x=13&y=13

It has experts and doctors opinion on what you should do for babies screaming and toddlers screaming especially in restaurants etc

Answer 10

I am not a mom, but this is what I would do....

Put her in a high chair and if she screams. walk away from the room and leave her alone until she is quiet. When she slaps people isolate her agian.

how old is she???