it is mine and my husbands one year anniversary..... and he didnt even get me flowers, our first valentines together married he didnt get me anything either. this is really fair and why is he doing this doesnt he know that women really appreciate these things
2007-06-22 01:31:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband knows that i like receiving little gifts, we've even talked about it. he just woke up at 4 in the afternoon asn asked whats for breakfast no happy anniversary or anything.
2007-06-22 01:39:25 · update #1
These are occasions you should be planning together not waiting to see if the other plans something. My husband and I plan all our special days, birthdays included so nothing or noone is left out. After 16 yrs. my husband knows we got married in May but he still has trouble with the exact day. Start planning your events together.
2007-06-22 01:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a matter of fair or unfair. I think it was downright rude and unthoughtful of your husband not to say Happy Anniversary or anything. When he woke up and asked me what's for breakfast I would have ignored him. I can't really speak on the other holidays, such as Valentines day because I don't get anything either. My husband is in the process of being a Jehovah's Witness (that is what he was raised as), so he carries the belief that you should not celebrate holidays. So I get nothing on my birthday or Valentine's day. We do go out to dinner on our anniversary and last year we actually went out of town. So he does participate in that.
If it bothers you that much, and not celebrating my anniversary would bother me, I would speak up and tell him how I feel. I think he is just being selfish ... man or not. For some reason, some people always make excuses for men.
2007-06-22 09:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want flowers, use the credit card or take the money out of the food budget and have flowers sent to your house, with a card saying "Happy anniversary, darling." When your husband gets home, give him a big hug and say, "Thank you for the beautiful flowers."
BTW: What did you get him, or does the gift giving only apply to you? Think about it, girlfriend.
2007-06-22 08:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are sitting back and waiting for him to forget and then being upset when he does then that is not right.
No we are not their mother but some people (women or men) do not think about those things and if you want something special done on your anniversary then you need to talk to him about it before hand.
Perhaps make a comment like "Wow, it is our anniversary next month what shall we do to make it special?"
Although sometimes we want those things to happen automatically that is just not the case with some people.
Talk to him, communicate that you want to make a certain even special and over time he will get into the habit of recognizing them.
Just remember that as you can not read his mind he can not read yours and if you don't say what you want but just sit back and expect him to do something you are setting yourself up for pain and disappointment.
2007-06-22 08:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a good guy then don't rock the boat. May be you should have reserved for a dinner in a restaurant , some men just don't think of small things that make women happy , but it does not mean that they are bad people.
2007-06-22 08:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by Iqbal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not fair. Women really appreciate these things and he probally thinks that since he's married now why bother to try to romance you. He already got you. But serioiusly you should tell him how you feel. Maybe he thinks that you are not into the whole gift giving routine.
2007-06-22 08:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by michelle s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's typical, that's what it is for most men. If a man does or doesn't do something while dating, don't expect him to change when married. When dating most men like to win over the girl with gifts, flowers etc, but if he didn't do it then you'll have to teach him now.
2007-06-22 08:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by yorkmaybeblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you had spoken about it in the past. I'll assume the waking up in the afternoon is job related, but to totally ignore the fact seems to me that he needs a little maturing.
Talk to him again and make sure he understands how important it is to you.
Good luck.
2007-06-22 08:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by Tim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men dont always no what women need unless you explain exactly how you feel we all have different love languages tell him how important it is to see then little things from him thats what i had to do with my husband and this is are first year to and mothers day he made me breakfast in bed and it was good to so hes even a good cook lol just tell your man what you need.
2007-06-22 08:36:50 · answer #9 · answered by pamlar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is treating you like that now, forgetting things that are important to you, then he will be doing it 10 years from now. Teach him, and don't let him get away with it. Remember we teach people how to treat us.
2007-06-22 08:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋