This friend is a girl that he used to work with years ago. She lives about 4 hours away, so I'm not worried about him visiting her. The e-mail had a couple of sexual innuendos. Apparently this has been going on for a couple months. He never mentioned that he was in contact with her. Should I be concerned? Should I confront him about it? He would be mad knowing that I saw his private email.
2007-06-22 01:09:09 · 23 answers · asked by festivus64 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off if you are married and have nothing to hide your emails should not be private. Second, yes I would confront him. You say your not worried about him seeing her just because of the distance, well, I am sure she would drive if she wants to see him. You also should be concerned. Seems to me he still wants her.
2007-06-22 01:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe first and foremost that there should be anything private from each other in a marriage. E-mails or other internet contacts are no different than sitting next to each other in a bar or restaurant if it's done without the knowledge or presence of the spouse. You need to have a serious discussion with him ....not a confrontation. Clear this up now. 4 hrs. isn't as far as you think it is.
2007-06-22 08:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brief well to your husband that he should leave now cowboy attitude. Now he is husband so he with his current spouse (which is absoluetely you) should live in a good harmonious way instead to see otherside. You also give him a real love which requires to build a loving home with you and your children. An accomplished assurance & understanding wich stands on trust and only trust needs here. The piece of paper, or few words of matrimonilal events, nothing goes last unless you believe & trsut each other. A commitment and faithfullness between each other are the basic things wich keeps both of you a good family always. Trust, fidelity, faithfullness, honesty & adherence of oath which you have taken with celebrating your weding. Convince him that dont do e-mailing to his former girlfriend. Now you are his girlfriend, dont see anywhere.
2007-06-22 09:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by Iqbal H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should be concerned, 4 hours away is not what that matter they can meet half way without problem, what you should do is just set a trap and see what is going on? Maybe what ever is going on is through mails only then no problem and his love for you has not changed then nothing to worry about either
2007-06-22 08:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by Rajesh K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would be mad because he's caught. You have every right checking up on him. Would you be emailing an ex? Would he be upset? Of course he would. He is married, why would he contact an ex unless he was hoping to maybe meet up with her eventually.
You could wait and act like you don't know. Monitor what he is typing her first to see what else comes about, and then nail him.
I would be concerned if I were you. Good luck!
2007-06-22 08:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by ~Kim~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may get mad about it, but yes, you should talk to him about the e-mails. I can't help but wonder why you're going through his e-mails in the first place. Sounds like you had trust issues before you started snooping. You should sit down and have a serious conversation with your husband, and try to open the lines of communication.
2007-06-22 08:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this man have no right of privacy? You've gone into his private email, and now you want to confront him about it. Not a wise idea. Until you see evidence of him visiting this person, concentrate on being a loving wife and leave his email alone.
2007-06-22 08:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you, I would confront him before it is too late.
If you are scared to strike out a fight with him, do the same thing. Get a male friend or a female friend to pretend to be a male and write similar things to him. Then "accidentally" leave the message where your husband is able to reach. Of course, the male friend must conveniently be sby who lives v far from where you are, so your husband would not doubt your fidelity.
2007-06-22 08:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since all this is in the past, I'd let it go, because if you bring it up now after you found it, you only going to stir up a hornets nest of things. I know it makes you feel like he's not being honest with you, but have you always been honest with him about everything? Leave it in the past and move foward. It's not going to work between you two if you don't have trust!!
2007-06-22 08:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh HELL no! What the heck is he doing? No way sister. You have to know this is not good. In my book he is cheating. There is no private email in my house. No freaking way. Everything is open. If I found something like that, my husband would be having to live at motel 6.
2007-06-22 08:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋