i have been in a relationship with my bf for 4 months now, and after a very long time i have let guard down to really care for somebody - but i dont really understand him...He has 18months to finish a phd and i know he is stressed bout it and needs to really focus on it...but i just hate it when we are having a conversation he suddenly switches off and starts thinking bout his work...it happens alot! how can i help here...am i supposed to let him just be, give him space or force him to talk to me...what i am supposed to be doing here...
2007-06-22 00:58:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's an adult.
Any attempt to "force" him to do Anything will simply result in a growing sense of resentment in him.
Are you so needy that you cannot see how important his phD is to him, and you cannot give him the space he needs to get it accomplished?
Education correlates to potential income. Ask him to compromise his degree and you are asking him to compromise your future together.
2007-06-22 01:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be a good idea to give him some space, let him come to you for conversation. It sounds to me that he is not really interested in what you say. Is it work that is all he is thinking about? or is there something else on his mind?
4 months is not a very long time to know a person or are you just getting to know the real him.
2007-06-22 08:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by oldbir62 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a strong woman... I had many friends who could not stick to their man while he was in medical school. It is going to be tough but you will have to stick by him if you really care for him. The easiest thing you can do is just let him know how you feel. Being in a relationship requires good communication and when your able to communicate your allowing your relationship to grow.
2007-06-22 08:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come out and ask him why he does that? If he continues then I think that means he is not that interested in you. I would find some extra cirricular actiivity to keep me busy. Not sink myself into him so much.
2007-06-22 08:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him ask him why he does that or whats on his mind or would he like to share what he is think about
2007-06-22 15:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by redrose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋