I seem to have no boundaries and have problems with assertiveness. My biggest problem is that I'm a people pleaser and don't want to rock the boat even if it's to my detriment. I do this instinctively and frequently don't notice that my boundaries have been violated after the fact. Unfortunatley, I grew up in a household where my boundaries were constantly violated. I was an unwanted child and my parents resented me and made it clear that I had to earn my keep. I've always been put in double binds. For example, i would get in trouble if I didn't help out but when complimented by my parents friends would get hit and yelled at because apparently I was a fake.. I'm very sensitive and to this day seem to struggle with double binds that enforce on myself. I can't seem to make myself happy.
2007-06-22 00:49:19 · 2 answers · asked by Pretty Girl 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can't make others happy unless your happy. You have to put your needs first. If you please and give people what they want all the time of course they are going to take advantage of you. It doesn't matter what others think it is how you think of yourself. When you stop pleasing everyone you'll learn to be happy. In life you have to learn how to love yourself a put your foot down to go far. Taking care of yourself and pleasing yourself is more important than pleasing those who do not appreciate it.
2007-06-22 00:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your left hand over the back of your neck, and BREATHE.
2007-06-22 08:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋