I am getting married in October...My Fiancés parents foster children and we have said no children to the daytime only family. Now my Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law have said they are not coming unless the foster child can come (they may also have 3 more children)!! We would not mind but this particluar child cannot behave...he is an attention seeker and i don't want our day ruined by him. My Fiancé is not backing down...does anybody have any good helpful advice!!!
Thank you :)
2007-06-22 00:04:15 · 9 answers · asked by Lauren 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell your fiance's parents that they will be missed.
2007-06-22 00:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, and I hope you will listen carefully to it. As his parents, they should not be excluded from such a milestone in their child's life. No matter if they are foster parents to the worst kid on the planet. Sure it is your day. But, that will be your family.
October is still a ways away. So maybe things will be better then. I would make the exception if I were you. Just because it is the right thing to do. Or elope.
2007-06-22 00:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would understand if the child was a cousin's of yours child. But this is your future in-laws. By right, they should be able to bring their foster children with them. All I would do is ask them to control the child during your special times. Besides those times...you would never even know that he's there cause you'll be so busy yourself. Stop stressing out about something like this...beleive me more things than a child that can go wrong at a wedding at ruin it. (It happend to me...I didn't have a throw away boquet, my videographer didn't show up, some gift were stolen). You gotta think, this is your future in-laws and do you really want to start off a relationship with them by getting them pissed about not being able to bring their foster kids. These are people that you are going to have to deal with the rest of your life!
2007-06-22 00:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by breisingermela 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well hon, are you sure you can like pick a place in there with a baby sitter for parents with children? I understand that is your day and you want this day to be special but it must be a way that they get to bring their kids even if the kids are in a separate room or with someone who can pick them up and go somewhre around where the ceremony wont get disturb...try that and if not well u have to stick to your plan your right is your day and you get to lay the rules down..good luck
2007-06-22 01:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance' should be very understanding of what you want and he should be doing anything to make you happy, especially on that day.
You should also be understanding of the way he feels, because that is soon to be your husband. You both have to think of each other and what will make them happy. Not only on that day, but for the rest of your life!
You both have to work something out together. It wasn't good when you wrote; your fiance' is not backing down. That is selfish and disrespectful. Don't ignore that. Tell him that you don't like the way he is treating this. Tell him if he wants to become selfish, ignore the way you feel and make his own decision, then he might want to be alone, because he can't do that if he's getting married. Things like that will cause you to become selfish and not back down. That type of relationship will eventually become major problem
Work it out together. For example say, okay they could come to my wedding, but they're going to have to act a certain way. I wish you all the luck.
2007-06-22 00:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your "marriage celebration" is just a day.......your going to have the inlaws and all of their baggage for EVER. If you cant get over this hump on just a day how do you expect to deal with in with out drama in the future......
2007-06-22 00:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by Rachael J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me see if I have this right. M-I-L and F-I-L will not show up unless a person you two do not want there is allowed to come. Here is what you say to the In-Laws, "I am sorry you will not be joining us, you will be missed."
Stand your ground now, if you don't the word Door mat comes to mind.
2007-06-22 00:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by bootsontheroad 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ya gotta eat this one, just get through the day, and pre-warn your Beau that if this kid ruins my day, they'll be a pretty lonely evening in store for "HIM" if this kid ruins the day ! Make it clear that YOU'RE NOT KIDDING !
2007-06-22 00:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think your plan has merit and should be respected. A sorry you can't make it is appropriate.
2007-06-22 00:25:45 · answer #9 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋