I am the type of person who cannot say NO to anyone. This has cost me a lot in terms of money and other aspects. People usually take advantage of that and I knowingly get into the situation. Basically I just dont want to hurt anybody's feelings. I want to change my habbit but unable to do so. Need advise pl. before its too late for me.
2007-06-20 22:28:44 · 11 answers · asked by khan sb. 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
khan sahab i would say that if u cant say NO then dont say no because how can u do some thing which u cant?it is ur nature...that means u r a shy person with great moral values...and u r lucky that u have such type of nature...
2007-06-20 23:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by Simple gurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to say yes all the time myself, and well... I still say yes a lot! But now I ask for favors in return so I don't feel taken advantage of.. Like the other day a co-worker asked me if I could scan some pictures for her... I told her I'd be glad to, but it'll cost her lunch!
2007-06-21 05:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my friend ive seen a lot of cases like this... i am a person who doesnt say yes or no just for saying, my trick is to put my time before anything, n thats not being egocentric hell no, thats wuts called focused, i mean, if someone ask u for help but u need 2 finish a report for ur boss or do laundry or wtv it is... u should put things in order so ur time dusnt mess up, try to do ur stuff first if the favor is a big time eater, else go for it, this works for me, if some1 asks me something n i have the time i do it, else sorry fella, but its my time 2 do my things
peace
2007-06-21 05:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by sam ccp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time before you say yes, when you want to say no, imagine the consequence and the unhappiness thats attached to your saying no.
Imagine that you are being taken advantage and how does that feel at that moment.
We all make choices in life. You can choose to say no, and choose to not FEEL GUILTY about it. So there. You owe it to yourself first to make you happy.
2007-06-21 05:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am probably much older than you and I don't tell anyone NO either. I am also a people pleaser. I will go out of my way to find people who need help....but I am not that great at solving my own issues. Good Luck to you. I will watch for answers to see if any one has a solution for us.
2007-06-21 05:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by Me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, well, in my case I say NO if someone asks me a favor but I feel it's a request that infringes upon my interests and rights. Listen, if you want to stop that, right now say NO to EVERYONE, I mean EVERYONE who asks you something (in gentle way of-cause), and when you'll feel yourself free of duty saying YES, start living new life without being slave of ppl around you. Good luck, and forget of helping out of pity to them, 'cause they haven't mercy on you.
2007-06-21 05:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is interest subject, my girlfrend has oder problem, she alway say no or I got hedake, 2 or 3 times week she haf hedake, is no fun haf find oder girl at 1 a.m.
2007-06-21 05:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by pieter m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pull the plug before the question cones up.
2007-06-21 05:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by jsardi56 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep it slow. If someone asks you something and you know that you wanna say no, just say it slowly. It will work. You might feel bad or good.
2007-06-22 14:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by BrOwN eYe GiRl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be appropiate!
lets say that your wife ask you out for dinner, you MUST say yes.
and when your friends ask you out for dinner later that say,say No
make a list of who is more important.eg:
1.wife &mother
2.sibilings
3.relatives
4.friends
5..............
2007-06-21 07:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by Ulquorria Schiffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋