hi all ,, i am engaged to someone was married before with kids ,, but he can't see them regulary as his ex wife prevent him to see them when she knows he got engaged ..
i was accepting the issue at first ,, but now whenever he see their kids or asking about them and she answer the phone i got crazy ,, i feel so jeallous , unsecure and unsafe ..
i know he loves me so much ,, but i can't capture my feelings... i don't have a problem toward his kids i love them i have a problem toward her , jeallousy is killing me ...
plz help me , what to do ?
2007-06-20 22:18:30 · 12 answers · asked by romeo4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would suggest you get some counseling if you really want you and him to work. There marriage obviously is over and since they have kids they will always have to deal with each other, if this is not something you are prepared for then you need to tell him right away.
2007-06-21 00:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 37 year old man with three kids. My wife and I are seperated and I get to see the kids on her terms. I will drop anything at anytime to spend time with them. The moral of the story is this I wouldnt piss on my soon to be x if she was on fire but because we do have children together our lives will most likely forever be crossing. Dont be jealous of x, she is x for a reason.
2007-06-28 10:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by sert654 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something that you will have to deal with. His kids will always come first. The ex wife will always be in his life as long as the kids live with her, and even then when they get married, she will be there. If you can't pull yourself together enough to get over the jealousy, the marriage will never work. He is with you. If he loved her, he would still be with her!!
2007-06-20 22:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure enough that he loves you there's nothing to be jealous of.You need to accept that you are having an affair
with someone who has kids from the previous marriage. Deal with that, he has kids with her so whether you like it or not , they will bump with each or he will call her every now and then, just get used to it as long as he is 100 % in love with you...then nothing to worry about.Cheer up girl, too much jealousy will do no good in your relationship plus it will stress you out, not good to your health as well.
2007-06-28 19:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by gem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think your first mistake was getting into a relationship with a man who was married and have kids...did you even think about what you did??????
tell me this....if he betray his own family"and specially his kids" do you think he is the kind that might last with you???if his own kids didn't matter for him..do u think you will in the future???i am sorry to say that...but if i was you..i would of started a fresh relationship..where i am the only person that my man cares about.
jealousy will pass...you'll be OK.
best of luck
Peace
2007-06-28 14:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jezz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves you and is with you now, everyone has a past, he has kids with her so they have to keep a cordial relationship for the sake of their kids but things didn't work out and he is engaged to you that says alot, if you want the relationship to work out with him then eventually you are going to have to get over your insecurities and perhaps get some counseling, he loves you and he cant get rid of her since she is the mother of his children, talk to him and perhaps he can give you some reassurance to make you feel better if not then go into counseling...
2007-06-23 17:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on your way it will never work sometimes you got 2 hurt the ones love 2 save them.And the ex wife is all ways going be there and and in the way.she will make mad and feel you with jeallousy everday your with him.SAVE YOUR SELF AND GO GET OUT OF THERE..............
2007-06-28 17:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by Chris B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this problem you have with controlling your feelings will absolutely not go away just because you get married. these feelings will still be there. you really need to get a grip and deal with this or you will be absolutely miserable for the rest of your life.
2007-06-28 10:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some help to get over your jealousy..with his ex. He came with baggage and you should have thought about that prior to saying yes to marriage and accepting his ring. THERE IS NO WAY OF GETTING RID OF AN EX ESPECIALLY ONE WITH CHILDREN...
2007-06-28 11:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let her get you down ma cause now that he has moved on now she is feeling the effect his heart has a new keeper and she is u ma. speaking from reality she is on the outside loo-kin in and guest what its the new and improved show its he-and you now ands its killing her but every time you get mad she is lol out loud dont let him go over her.
2007-06-28 19:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋