This is all about child custody, usually guys get screwed over with custody battles. Right now I have temperary full custody and she has no contact what so ever. Sorry to say, she's an idiot. It started out with her filing for a pfa (protection from abuse) against me, a day later, she claimed child abuse against me on our 2 and a half year old son. All was thrown out in court. I know things are in my favor right now, but it just seems like custodies go in the mothers favor. Any helpful hints for the custody battle that starts at the beginning of July???
2007-06-20 20:41:21 · 7 answers · asked by Go STEELERS-58 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok, yeah,the mudslinging happened...more than likely she got somereally shitty advice and ran with it...but when it comes down to it...it is only going to be about who has the better home environment for the child.
I am NOT an advocate for no contact with a parent...UNLESS there truly is abuse happening. It is extremely traumatic for a child to just have a parent ripped from them, no matter how distasteful they may be in your eyes.
For your child's sake, try not to turn this into a war....it's only him you are going to hurt. So keep that in mind. A child needs both parents...and you can't let the bitterness of your divorce or split affect his life...that just makes both of you bad parents...
If you truly feel you are the better parent, then the absolute best thing to show you are a reasonable person in the eyes of the court is to offer joint custody, you having primary physical and joint legal. The reason I say joint legal is because if the two of you were together, both of you would have a say in how the child is raised,schooled and cared for physically....there is no reason that one parent should be allowed to reign supreme just because your adult relationship fell apart. And of course, a reasonable visitation schedule.
Request that both of you have to do home studies...and when you get yours done...andtheyask you what you think of the other as a parent...you don't bash her...that is a huge red flag to an evealuator that you are going to be a problem if you have custody in allowing visitation & working with the other parent...
I can't stress enough how you want to try to keep this as civil as possible...otherwise by the ageof 5...you are going to have a hellion on your hands...
2007-06-20 21:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please note that the universal principle followed by the family courts through out the world in granting the custody of the children is the general welfare of the children in their growth & development. In order to consider this principle the family court consider the various factors such as the income of the parents, the educational back ground of the parents, the marital status after the divorce of the parents, the age of the children, the time each of the parent can spend with the children, the criminal background of the parents, the choice of the children with which parent they want to be, the security of the children in general, the mental status of the parents, the habits of the parents that can effect the development of the children etc. Now the family courts are more bothered for the future of the children & in order to secure the proper development of the children, & secure their bright future the family courts grant the custody of the children to the most deserving parent. So if you can show to the court that you are the most deserving parent get assured you get the child’s permanent custody with your spouse getting right to visit & be with the child for some period of time on regular basis or as the court thinks proper & judicious for the case.
2007-06-20 20:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep records of her allegations and previous court rulings. Be prepared to provide character references. It is already good for you that you have custody because the court will take that into consideration. If your child is healthy and relatively happy, courts are not inclined to move them just to make one parent happy. Don't sling mud at her but let her past actions speak in your favor. If you can't afford to have an attorney, sometimes they will speak to you and prep you a little for a consulting fee which is usually 25 to 50 dollars. Most times though when you get attornies involved, things get ugly. Remeber that the court will always want what is best for the child. If you are of the same mind set it will be to your benefit.
2007-06-20 21:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be truthful and show your evidance in your favor. I have custody of my 2 children now 17 and 12 had for about 4 yrs now.
2007-06-20 21:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by curious6710 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope you have an attorney and lots of evidence to support your case. the fact that you have custody is a good thing. keep a notebook with dates and times of anything she says or does pertaining to your case. witnesses can be beneficial too. best of luck.
2007-06-20 20:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by TLC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best person to give you advice would be your lawyer..really
2007-06-20 20:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by bronzedgal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have a lawyer yet, you need to get one ASAP.
2007-06-20 20:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋