I'm trying not to overreact but i think its total BS. He's going to be no use to me all messed up so if i have to i will drive myself to the hospital and leave him here. Am i being too hard on him? Its not our first child, we just had a son last july.
2007-06-20 19:01:24 · 32 answers · asked by Angel R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think I would ask the staff to deny his visiting privileges!
2007-06-20 21:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Chetco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that was my husband I would not have to be induced because after I got through kicking his a$$ I would have thrown myself in labor. I do not blame you. That is pathetic. First baby or not. He should want to be sober for the birth. Make him drink coffee and throw him in a tub full of ice cubes and cold water see if a family or friend person would stop by right before you have baby and mabey by then he will be sober. In his defense mabey he is worried about how this second addition will change life as you know it. One changes everything but two little ones will definetly change life a little more.
I would be mad and so would over half the moms on here. We don't blame you. Try not to get to upset about it right now, it could cause too much stress on you and the baby during delivery time.
You can yell at him during labor (only reason why I say have someone bring him later if you wish and if he is sober) I would yell at him and squeeze the alcohol out of his hand with a very hard grip and be sure to break every finger and knuckle why you are at it.
Best of luck. Congrats.
2007-06-20 19:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by supermommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your anger is very justified. Your hubby knew you were being induced and exactly what that meant this is not his first. I am so sorry you have to deal with this stress at this very special time. You should both be concentrating on meeting your new addition.
My husband also loves to drink, this is our first and I made him promise to give up drinking until I can drink too. I know the way he is and I don't want this precious time to be contaminated by his drinking. Maybe your husband will agree to something like that the next go round. Until then there's no need to continue to stress.
Call a close friend or family member to be your support person. When your husband is sober and both you and your baby are well tell him about how he let you down.
Don't let anything ruin this for you.. Congrats
2007-06-20 19:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by mskissty1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but what a total a**hole for doing that to you.
Sounds like he's more concerned about getting drunk, then being supportive of you and your needs right now.
I'm sorry to hear about this. I'd be really flippin pissed off if my husband did something like this as well.
I hope that things go well for you. Perhaps you can call a neighbor/friend or family member to be your moral support during this time.
*Hugs*
2007-06-20 19:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by mroof! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed off too. My husband was drunk the night before I went into labor with my first. He went to his brothers house and didn't come home 'til about 4am and I went into labor at 9am. Normally he is really hard to wake up when he has been drinking but he jumped right out of bed and sobered up real quick. So hopefully your husband will sober up and realize what is going on. I wish you the best and congrats on the new baby!
2007-06-20 19:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mom22 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
NO! You are NOT overreacting! I would be pissed at my husband too if he were drunk knowing I was going to be induced in 3 hours. That is completely disrespecting you AND the baby!
2007-06-20 19:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by violentbeauty6 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am an alcoholic. My only brother is an alcoholic and my only sister is an alcoholic. Both of my parents are/were (dad died) alcoholics.
Either leave this man if you can't handle it or get him into a program of recovery.
Don't believe his promises. Don't accept his appoligies. He's a drunk and will lie to anyone about anything to stay a drunk.
30 meetings in 30 days with confirmation! Unless he becomes aware enough that he needs 90 meetings in 90 days.
LEAVE! He'll never change.
2007-06-20 19:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by wroockee 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong to be angry, however what you shoudl be trying to do is forget about the loser for awhile and concentrate on you and the beautiful baby you are about to deliver. You will need all the focus and calmness you can muster - please try not o go into this stressed and upset or you'll only make things difficult for yourself and your baby.
Be pissed off for now - but try and get over it in a few hours.
If there anyone who can go with you to the hospital to support you? (mother, sister, friend)
He'll be of no use if he's off his face and probably will not be allowed in anyway.
2007-06-20 19:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by SydneyMum101 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'd be super mad too! Personally, I would see if you could reschedule for a few days later. You want the birth to be a nice memorable experience.... not remembering your husband drunk and stumbling around everywhere. Will he even remember the birth if he's that drunk. Tell him to get his act together or you woun't have him there. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. I hope it all works out.
2007-06-20 19:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
KICK HIS A** to the CURB!
3 years ago my ex husband took off on me at the hospital the day AFTER I had our baby!
He went out to get loaded on drugs and did not even come back to pick me up when I was RELEASED!!
I had to go to my parents house after being released and break into my house because he took the car/keys.
I found him PASSED OUT because he was sooo ******* high. I even had to clean the ENTIRE house all by myself because she was a month early and we were not prepared.
I should have left him then, but...oh well, live and learn. I just got the divorce finalized last month because He NEVER changed. He will never see my daughter again.
GOOD LUCK!!! lol!
2007-06-21 17:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by S H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed, too!!! I would not bring him to the hospital, because he will be completely useless and an embarassment to you! I hope you have a responsible family member to bring you to the hospital and watch your son. Good luck & God bless!
2007-06-20 19:15:41 · answer #11 · answered by puffstermama 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋