2007-06-20 18:37:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As the days and years go by we come to anticipate, to expect, to lose the excitement of newness. When we were dating we asked about everything, and everything was equally important to both. But as the years keep passing the interest in everything disappears and we tend to focus on what interests us and not be particularly interested in what might interest them. To keep life in a relationship it is necessary to acknowledge and honor the other's feelings, to support them and to keep loving them. Hugs re very important. It is possible to become very comfortable, both parties, but that also takes work and compassion and understanding. And experience. Relationships are tough. You have to work at them to make them work.
2007-06-20 19:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people arn't mature enough. They don't know how to listen, they don't know how to get a point across without being demeaning or making the other person defensive.
Also, because people are looking for self value & validation.
People think........if only somone loved them, then life would be good. They don't know that you can't define yourself by another preson.
A person needs to stand on their own and be who they are before they can truely love.
2007-06-20 19:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOTS of reasons. #1 is lack of newness. When the relationship isn't new anymore, it isn't as much fun to work on it. So it is no longer a priority. Another common reason is lots of hurts that have not been resolved that just build up over time. Also lack of time together--how can you work on something when that something is unavailable? Also, having more negative interactions than positive (ie, more "Why haven't you taken out the trash?" vs "I love you! Thanks for working so hard!" kind of conversations)
2007-06-20 18:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At first everything is intense and mushy but you cannot live with that intensity and its not really love--you have to work at keeping a relationship going ,the world tends to crash in on it. Work,family,friends etc. are all part of you life,and all need attention.
2007-06-20 18:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by dove2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its weird isnt it?? I know when im single, im super strong, not much phases me, i can put up with heaps.
As soon as im with someone, i complain heaps, i whinge, i cry, everything.
I guess the main reason for that is cos its convenient, people get lazy or i guess overall its just that rather than dealing with things on your own, there is someone always there to "help" deal with those issues and i guess getting everything out brings emotions flooding so it makes things worse than they actually are. Thats the only thing i can put it to...
2007-06-20 18:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as with any thing in life, things get comfortable, like a good
pair of shoes. etc. things get easy.
2007-06-20 18:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it's because we accept ppl as they are so that they'll accept us as we are. And because it's comfortable.
2007-06-20 18:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by May Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋