Do any of you ever have relationship problems?

Question

I have been in a relationship for over three years, although I have a lot of problems on my side of the family and my boyfriend says, that I am just like them, and I will never change.

I have a bad attitude problem, I get quite angry sometimes, and recently I have found myself getting depressed. But I'm also sick of saying my story over and over again too many doctors, and I feel that isn't getting me anywhere, I want to change, but where do I start, besides going to a doctor? What other things or tips do you guys have that might help me with my problems?

*If your going to judge me don't bother replying to my message. I have needed some anwsers before to be deleted.

Answer 1

I IMAGINE THAT THERE IS NOT ONE PERSON WHO DOES NOT HAVE A GLITCH IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP FROM TIME TO TIME...
THE WAY YOU ARE EXPLAINING THE SITUATION IS THAT YOU FEEL YOU ARE HAVING SOME ISSUES W/ YOUR CONTROL OF YOUR MANNERISMS..... IF YOU ARE FEELING OUT OF SORTS AND MOODY IT COULD BE HORMONAL OR OTHER IMBALANCE.
I KNOW HOW DIFFICULT IT IS DEALING W/ DOCS WHO DO NOT LISTEN.. JUST DO NOT GIVE UP AND REMEMBER TO TRY YOUR PERSONAL BEST TO STOP YOURSELF FROM BEHAVING IN WAYS YOU KNOW ARE NOT BENEFITING YOU.
WE ALL ARE NOT PERFECT- I AM BY NO MEANS... I CATCH MYSELF BEING A ROYAL B!%CH AT TIMES- USUALLY PMS TIME IS MY WORSE... TRY TO DO YOUR BEST TO COME TO REALIZE THOSE FAULTS AND IMPROVE WHERE YOU ARE ABLE TO!
GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 2

I think everyone has relationship problems. You say you have an attitude problem and you get angry - deal with these issues - get to the bottom of your anger - find out how/where it started and then decide that those things won't get to you anymore. I've found doctors unhelpful with most things - let's face it if we were all perfect they would not be in business and it's not in their interest to fix people up (I know that will sound very cynical). The bottom line is if you want to change, you and only you can do it. It's up to you to take control of your reactions to things and how you see the world.
You need criticism from your b/f like a hole in the head. Be around people who support you in your wishes.
Good luck it's all up to you.

Answer 3

We all have challenges with our relationships -that's human life. We are like our relatives because much of human behavior is genetic, and the rest we learn from the people around us, especially our families.

If you and your boyfriend are at odds over some of each others ingrained behaviors, start reading a few psychology books about relationships.
After a few books you'll begin developing some ideas about what terms and ideas seem the most like you and your boyfriend, and both of your families. Then you can begin discussing how you each "are." Most importantly, you will begin to see your strengths, weaknesses, and how you can change what you decide you want to change.
If you need help before you have read enough, see a counselor and discuss what you have learned, and where you are stuck.

the better you know yourself, the wiser, more mature, and happier you will become.

Answer 4

Stop repeating your story. All this does is allow it to sink in, to become as if it is the only version of yourself that there is.

Work out, often. This will keep your mind off of your issues and will also make you feel better.

Change your frame of reference. When you feel your anger or your attitude coming on, stop yourself and think of alternatives that could also be valid for the given situation.

Remove yourself from the people that create these feelings in the first place. Whether it means make new friends or hanging out somewhere else, whatever it takes.

Tell your boyfriend to get bent. Be supportive or be gone.

Answer 5

i know something that might make you feel better.
spoil yourself... but stay in your limits.
like set aside time everyday to do something
that you love. or to try something new. it'll keep
your mind off things.

and i know family problems really hit home,
so another thing you can do is meditate...
it really works. think of a place you'd love to
visit. take some tropical island for example.
think of the warm sun giving you peace that
reaches within... just image the sand between
your toes and the fresh clear water of the
ocean moving up to your waist. listen to the
waves. feel the rhythm
of that place and relax. this exercise will help
you see things through the eyes of someone
patient and at peace. it'll help you become more
rational about things. just try it at least a few times and
see how you like it.

hope i helped,
and i hope things work out for you.
take care.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

do you really want to change? then start by take a deep breath and slowly counting 1-20 whenever you feel like shouting. it will help you reduce your temper. every relationship have ups and downs so do yours. and stop blaming yourself. and a very good luck to you.