My hubby leaves his car door unlocked about once a week. This is a problem because his garage door opener is in there and someone could just come in the garage and steal stuff ( or worse, get into the house easily.) This has been going on for months. Is it ok for me to make it look like stuff was stolen the next time he does this, so that maybe he will be more careful?
2007-06-20 17:36:52 · 22 answers · asked by undone 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hmm. Never considered the idea that he might actual call the police in that situation. That would be bad. REally appreciate all the responses- a lot of good points i never considered. thank you all.
2007-06-20 18:20:04 · update #1
Just remove the garage door opener from his car. That should fix the problem.
2007-06-20 17:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Kevman9999 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Well....I don't understand why calling the police is "bad" but I think you may be over reacting. Depending on what part of the country you live in. You never mention if you live in the suburbs or a big city. I mean the opprotunity for something like that to happen could be anywhere but what i am generalizing is that the possibilities in a major city are much greater than if you were in the burbs. Or even the country. So as to not offend. It is compleatly situational with the exceptions that I touched on before...Hell If all else fails just tell him that you feel this is unsafe and that he really needs to pay more attention to the possibilities of this happening. If he truly loves and cares for you he will go out of his way to make you feel safe and protected at any cost.
2007-06-24 02:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by frankie_the_dago 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's wrong to decieve him in order to teach him a lesson.
I'm sure he understands that leaving the house unsecured is not a good idea, but frankly, if someone wants to get into your garage or house, they don't need the garage door opener to do it. Your house isn't as secure as you think it is. Most burglers will just break a window...take some stuff and be gone before anybody has time to react.
Let him know that it bothers you, ask him to be more careful and that's about all you can do.
2007-06-21 00:51:16 · answer #3 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You will not change him by nagging. He does not see this as a serious problem. Rather than trying to change him, find a solution that does not require him to change!
If you are that worried, have an electrician install a switch to turn on and off the garage door opener. Before you go to bed at night, turn the switch off and the door will not work. Turn it on in the morning!
2007-06-21 01:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by fire4511 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes do it , teach him a lesson. Also take the garage door opener away from him. Stress how his lack of situational awareness doesnt make you feel as safe as youd like to feel because the garage is a easy way to break in and hes careless about closing it etc
2007-06-21 01:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
That would be a plan but you have to think about the consqences what about if he calls the police to report the missing items or what if he finds the items you have hidden then that wouldn't turn out good either. I would just remind him that if he doesn't park in the garage then you will have to remove his opener or I would even break it so he couldn't use it to get into the garage then you wouldn't have to worry about others getting in either. Tell him he needs to grow up and act responsible for your safety. How can you even sleep at night thinking someone could get in!
2007-06-21 00:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by latasha_creech 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Can you? Sure. Should you? No. It doesn't sound like he's careless, just forgetful. If it's such a huge deal to you, go out and check his car at night and lock it if it's unlocked. Maybe come up with a way to remind him? Most car's have keyless entry nowadays. Many times at night when I'm locking up, I click them to make sure the cars are locked. It's really no big deal. I'm sure you do things that bother him. Would you want him to play tricks on you or just be there to remind you?
2007-06-21 00:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps it would be far easier to ask him if he locked the car each time he comes home. You are thinking of resorting to subtrafuge...no one in their sane mind would recommend that. Or, take his garage door opener and hide it...that will make him have to enter the house and open the garage door...very inconvenient, and make you feel safer until he replaces it. IF he leavest the car unlocked again, take the opener again...if he has to replace and reprogram enough of these things, he will start locking the car. But honestly, babe, IF someone wants in his car, they will get in his car, period.
2007-06-21 00:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
hmm...you could probably do that but what are you going to do with the stuff?wouldnt you guys hear the garage door opening?i dont know...thats lying to him..maybe talk it over with him more..but you probably already have and that didnt work...this is your decision..my boyfriend leaves his car doors unlocked EVERYDAY..WITH HIS KEYS TO THE HOUSE AND CAR inside his car.crazy huh?i keep saying someones going to steal the car or break in..he dont listen at all
2007-06-21 00:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by Alyssa D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you have a right to be concerned about your and your family's physical safety. I would simply make it my responsibility to lock all of the the cars at night. He's not going to change, and no amount of trickery is going to "fool" him into becoming responsible. Before going to bed, lock the car doors.
2007-06-21 00:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋