My husband cheated on me with two different women and I thought I would never get over it.So I cheated on him, he doesnt know.I feel guilty, should I tell him..Lately our marriage has been getting alot better....and I dont want to screw things up....
2007-06-20 16:09:17 · 20 answers · asked by greyeyebeauty81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you both cheated... time to call it quits
2007-06-20 16:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him. Living a life with someone and keeping a secret such as this from them is just plain WRONG.
He should be understanding, afterall, he's done it himself.
Then perhaps the two of you can look eachother in the eye and ask what are you going to do as a couple to stop letting other people come inbetween you.
This is an opportunity to make your marriage finally strong enough that this type of thing doesn't happen again. Use this to your advantage to become closer and more dedicated.
Whatever you do sexually, it should be open and honest.
2007-06-21 00:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a lovely mess! A marriage built on infidelity and distrust. It's getting better? Topically, maybe. How can you trust him and how can he trust you...with the partner changing going on...why even be married? What kind of a foundation is distrust?
Two wrongs never resolved an issue. Counseling would be a great opportunity for the both of you.
Telling your husband of your infidelity is not a solution, nor will it gain you points.
Seek some counseling if you care to resolve the issues...however, I know of no marriages that survived after infidelity presented itself.
good luck
2007-06-20 23:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by cadvadvocate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people who cheat like this are just as bad as the ones that did it in the first place. Also people like you give marriage a bad name. Don't bother, Break up with your man, get over the relationship and move on. No point continuing something when you are living in a lie!
2007-06-21 00:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things are just better left alone. What good will it bring to tell him now? If your marriage is getting better, you just forgive yourself and move on. Sometimes its better to let things die. Now on the other hand, if you keep it a secret and he somehow finds out about from someone else, then it will hurt him more and there will be no trust left. Maybe you should tell him I want our marriage to work, I want both of us to trust each other and for there to be no secrets, and tell him. I have went throught this exact situation, and I told him, it actually made our relationship stronger. He appreciated my honesty, and he started trusting me again, as well as I started trusting him. We are still together and it's been three years. Good luck and I wish the best for you
2007-06-21 00:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
screw all these people with stupid answers.
DON'T go to talk to a priest!
your marriage is getting better, so continue making it better. DON'T tell him about your affair.
If you are continuing your affair then you better STOP! unless you want to compromise making your marriage better.
It happened already. Leave it ALONE!
Love you husband the more and drive on!
guilt! let that guilt go! forgive yourself. you had a weak moment (as long that you are not still seeing this other guy!).
the other choice, if you are still seeing this other guy, eat the cake baby! you already made it.
throw away the guilt!
2007-06-20 23:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get it out in the light of day ASAP*...Where you both can deal with it*.. One should never cheat if they are going to be on a guilt trip*...A woman can have a Lover on the side and not feel guilty about it*...
2007-06-21 09:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resentments flourish in the land of the unstable. First examine your self and why your still together. The most likely reason for cheating is dis-satisfaction with your partner. just because it is okay now doesnt mean it wont change. Me personaly..... get out cut your losses. Hook up with me I will treat you right.
2007-06-20 23:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel guilty?...so you've learn that an eye for an eye isn`t the answer in life. Forget about it all and enjoy your marriage while it`s doing good.
2007-06-20 23:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you felt the need to get even with him then your marriage isn;t getting better. I suggest counseling to help with the trust issue. See a counselor for yourself and for your marriage.
2007-06-20 23:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by caligal68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have both been very, very immature. I suggest you keep you mouth shut, and you both might consider marriage counseling. You need to grow up before you even consider having kids.
Kent in SD
2007-06-20 23:19:28 · answer #11 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋